i wanted to post this question on this board for some time now, but i was afraid i was, as usual, taking things out of proportion.
i'm 27, married. i'm off the pill for about a year. we're trying - seriously - to concieve more than 4 months now.
i know it's not long, but i feel desperate already.
i went to my gyno last week and he earged me not to be stressed and try for a least another 3 months before starting to worry. he said that starting with all tests will not do us good - mentally - and that i should be more optimistic.
i know he's right, but if we do have a problem - shouldn't we know it and start treating it as soon as possible? what makes this worse is that acne started once i was off the pill, due to the change of hormones and there is nothing i can do about it (all the good treatments for that are dangerouse for pregnant women).
what do you think?
Shira,
Most OB/GYN doctors believe that there is not a feritily issue until a couple has had unprotected sex for one year without successfully conceiving. You should not worry! If you know of something that may increase your risk, such as indometriosis, then let your doctor know. That may change the way he treats your case.
One thing you might want to do is to chart your morning temperture so if in the case you are still not pregnant in the 3 months you will have already taken care of the next step. You will need the basil thermometer which you can get at any discount store. The charts are usually provided with. The first time I went to my doctor concerned with not being pregnant he told me to relax and take my temp for something to do. I ended up in obgyn a few months later and the chart gave him some additional information and we were able to start other tests right away. In most cases the answer is something simple, unfortunatly I had both tubes completely blocked but was able to have a daughter through ivf. It is a long (and tearful) process but it is better to know what you are dealing with. Good luck to you both!
Shira,
I recently went off the pill also and have noticed aweful acne (it's like i'm going thru puberty again)since about 1 month afterwards. have you noticed yours clearing up at all? have you found anything to work for you? i'd be greatful for any suggestions.
thanks
Drs make you wait because even in an ideal situation where there are no fertility issues, it can take a couple a year (sometimes more) to concieve. I totally understand the lack of patience thing. Every month it gets harder and harder to wait, but try to keep in good spirits.
Good Luck to all!!!
