Re: Donor Sperm
We didn't use a donor sperm, but a donor egg. (IVF #1 wasn't succussful and #2 is scheduled for December.) We are most definetly going to tell the child. Like Brenda said, the last thing on earth we want to happen is for the child to find out accidently (I have visions of high school biology class figuring out their blood types from their parents - oops). We are going to tell him/her right away so they grow up with it (vs. a big dramatic talk at age 18). We don't want to keep a big secret like that from the child or from our family (how stressful is that?) And most of all, we want to reassure our child that there is nothing wrong with them because of this - we don't have to keep it a secret. You keep shameful things secret - and there is nothing shameful about having a child that you want very much.