Gosh some of you are so young-and to have this! - Inner Ear Disorders Message Board

Ninamarie · 04-23-2004, 06:48 PM

I'm struck at times with how young some of you are. The young fellows in their early twenties, and you Emsybobs, it seems like all of your young adulthood years have been afflicted with this monster. At an age when the world should be your oyster and to be contending with this!!! What's that old saying "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger". It takes courage & character to cope with adversity and I'm sure every one of you young adults will be more compassionate people when you finely get the better of this thing. Take heart, time is on your side.

Emsybobs · 04-24-2004, 04:04 AM

Bless you Nina...thanks for that. I must say oneof the worst things for me is how old I am - my friends are off socialising, meeting men and havin fun and I'm stuck at home with the parents with life on hold! I often get down about it but as you say, what can I do, I have to keep thinking I will be a better person when I walk away from this, which I know for certain I will be.

My friend recently said to me "there is no good time for labyrinthitis" when I said to him why did I have it so young. I actually think he's very right.

But yes it certainly does get to me...my career and plans are all on hold and I feel like I'm waiting for that bus which is incredibly late.

xxx

star803 · 04-24-2004, 04:55 AM

Exactly how I feel emsybobs. This hit me when I was 22 and hasnt left and im now 24. All my friends are off travelling, going out, drinking, having fun and i am........ watching tv with the folks! I love them but not what I was planning to be doing at 24 on a Saturday night! But what can you do. The person who I feel sorry for is my boyfriend! His girlfriend went from 22 to 82 overnight! It has been tough trying to make our relationship work through this.

Thanks ninamarie for your thoughts, I sympathise for all of us inner ear sufferers.

Emsybobs · 04-24-2004, 07:43 AM

Hi star yep your situation is v similar to mine...I dont have a boyf and sometimes I wish I did have so that I'd have more support but I have a few v good friends who've been v good to me - also like you say, I'd worry about making the relationship work, I dont think anyone would put up with me at the mo! This is a real test for a relationship so brill that yours is working. Guess you'll know that its the real thing if he sticks by you and supports you throughout.

Another thing I have found (have you star?) is that because people know I cant do things they dont invite me, so it ends up being a cycle of isolation. Where as infact a bit of normality, however hard for me, may actually feel like my life is a little less restricted.

I do often have times of thinking ITS NOT FAIR that I have this, but I just remind myself that I'm alive, there are far worse things to have and hopefully this wont be forever.

xxx

willsmommy · 04-24-2004, 04:53 PM

Hi,

This hit me at the age of 27 and at the time I had two little kids under 4. NIGHTMARE.
I have then gone through another preganancy (very very dizzy and disabled by it) and stuck in the house with them feeling like the worst mother in the world. Thankfully I am married but all of last year my dh was away mon through firday and I literally was house bound, scared and v lonely.

I too though this cannot be happeneing........but it was. I felt all that you too said above, just the same.

BUT i am way better now (3 year mark) and you two will also.

The funny thing is that these boards and sepecailly our chats etc emys have made me feel that all; this weird and horrible symptoms are actually quite common and not so unusual after all. Thank god for these boards!!

xxxxxxx