I would try your primary doctor if they don't seem open to discussing something other than a uti, skip straight to a urologist if possible. It sounds like you do.have ic tho. I used to avoid sex with my bf too and he hated it! Lol but i had to go through 3 different doctors, surgery for endometrisis and tons of testing before i was told basically id have to live with the pain. And after i pushed and pushed, she finally listened she referred me to my urologist. they did a procedure on my bladder and I've been.on elmiron since last year. From my experience with my gyno, who did my surgery, he wasn't interested in hearing my symptoms just wanted to be done with my appointment. If you don't need a referral i would go see a urologist. I hope everything get better for you.soon!