Re: Please help! :(
Sorry to hear what you are going through at the moment.
Yes, it is possible that the back pain and IBS are related. It can be the same sort of stress and tension that you are holding in that causes the belly pain that can also cause the back pain.
If you have been constipated, then the blood in the stools could be that you have bleeding haemahhorids from straining too much trying to have your bowels open. Have you had bloods and a USS of your belly at the docs, or if not a USS has he examined your belly fully and done a rectal?
Do you eat a good all round diet with plenty of fruit, veg and carbs? You need to and also to drink plenty of fluid. If you are constipated then it is helpful to drink prune juice and start some Metamucil twice daily to help regulate your bowels. Your belly may be bloated at first, but stick with it and remember to increase your fluid intake with the metamucil. It is water soluble and safe to take.
It would also be worth your while eating some yogurt or taking some acidophilis caps. These will recolonate your gut with good bacteria. Keep them in the fridge, don't take them with hot drinks, heat kills bacteria and take them on an empty stomach for best effect. They could help your pain too.
To relax, I would recommend some Qi Gong meditation exercises. This encourages you to empty your mind and breathe more deeply from your belly rather than your chest, thus slowing down, emptying your mind and breathing deeply. You will feel more grounded and it will also help to relax your belly, thus helping the pain.
Try heat pads on your belly and back too.
Also to help relax, I would recommend acupuncture. This is extremely good for stress reduction and will help you sleep better if you have not been doing. It will help the pains in your belly as well and your bowels generally.
Homeopathy is helpful too and this could help with the symptoms.
If you have some mucus in your stools at present and the pains in your belly are worse than usual, then it could be that you have picked up a stomach virus. Keep drinking plenty of fluids and it should clear within a couple of days. The Acidophilis should help this though.
Hope this helps?