More on my Dad--DeeDee! - Kidney Disorders Message Board

kate26444 · 02-20-2007, 07:47 AM

Well, Dad's been off of dialysis for a week now and this morning he's being taken by ambulance to the hospital. He is filling with fluid and having a difficult time breathing. My Mom said he was disoriented last night and wouldn't let her call the ambulance but this morning had no choice. She's monitored his input and output and yesterday didn't have any output hardly at all and had gained weight so we knew this was going to happen.

He is oriented enough to know that he is dying though. He's ready and has been talking about all the things he's done in his life and how there is nothing else he wishes he had done. He's ready to go. He's 78 and not as young as your husband was DeeDee so I really feel for you. It's going to be hard but knowing he is content with dying makes it easier for all of us. Thank you for responding to my letter. It was a great comfort hearing from you. Now we have to pray that my Dad has a comfortable passing and doesn't suffer much. Take care. Kate

deedee1313 · 02-22-2007, 05:44 AM

I'm sorry.I read your post yesterday and I couldn't think of anything to say.Knowing what you are going through and reliving the last day of my husbands life was really hard.I made the choice to take my husband off the ventilator and all his children and their wives were there to say goodbye.Knowing that this is his choice and being able to say goodbye is going to make this easier later.I wish my husband had chose to quit instead of the way it all happened.I know nothing is going to make you feel better right now but it does get easier.It doesn't get better,at least it hasn't for me yet.But you learn to live with it and one day you will wake up and not be crying.I know this was all for the best and knowing that is the only thing that has kept me going.I am so sorry for what you are going through and I wish you all the best(in time).DeeDee