being cruel.... - Learning Disorders Message Board

mandi30 · 06-23-2004, 03:51 AM

Sorry in advance as im likely to warrble on a bit here lol. Thing is yesterday i feel like my sons school totaly humiliated him, It was sports day and because he has dyspraxia & learning difficulities he's really slow and no good at sports or ene physical activity at all he's only 6 so he still has a whole lotta learning to go.. He was in a few races and came last but when it came to the sack race he was doubly crap at that! He made 2 hops and fell he kinda continued like that the rest of the course but i was proud to bits to see him doing it, Basically the problem being he took that long to finnish that the rest of his class had gotten back to the start and they had a new group of kids ready to start at the line with everyone shouting at him to hurry up and finnish and the PARENTS of the kids were giggling and laughing outloud everytime he fell, I really wanted to smack the lot of them in the mouth and ask them how would they like it if i pee'd myself laughing at theyre little sh*ts!! Afterwards he was sitting himself on the bench with noone to play with cos everyone was telling him to get lost i ended up sat in the middle of the playground cuddling him whilst he was sobbing and asking to come home, Obviously had i not been at sports day i wouldnt have seen all this but its totaly broken my heart to think that in this day and age people cant see past a CHILDS disabilities! I had him at an appointment at physio this morning and in the car on the way to school afterwards he begged me not to make him go to school.. I dunno what to do, Obviously im not expecting anyone to give me a magic answer but has ene1 ever been through anything like this with theyre kids and survived?

Mandi x

Zeethan · 06-27-2004, 10:28 AM

Well, if anyone laughed at your son, it's on them, some people need to feel superior and make fun of everything and everyone. Since it's now summer and school is out, is there anyway to work with your son on becoming more agile? He just needs to find his niche. How about swimming? Find something that builds his self esteem.

JinL · 06-28-2004, 06:45 AM

Check with your school to see if they have special education classes or groups. Then they will be with other kids & parents that will be more understanding.

Good luck

senseless · 07-20-2004, 11:14 AM

I've been dealing w/ this for years. My child is Bipolar w/ learning disabilities and the SWEETEST kid you would ever want to meet. He's been in special Ed. along w/ regular ed.. bare in mind.. kids are cruel and with that said it doesn't justify anyone being treated like that. My son is 11 and after years of him being tortured by the other kids in the school setting we've finally decided to pull him out of school and homeschool him. He's begging to be pulled out of school. Not only are things tougher on these kids being that they have a learning disability as well as other disabilities, but then they have to deal with the CONSTANT torment on a daily basis by the students and faculty alike (yes, it does happen w/ the faculty too even though they wont admit it). My child is SO RELIEVED that he wont have to endure the panic of all eyes watching him as he attempts his best although to others he's failing.. It's a sad state of affairs how our kids get this kind of treatment. I've been back and fourth w/ the school and schoolboard on this issue and only to be filled w/ empty promises of how things will get better, and how " kids will be kids". All I can say is YOU are you childs only TRUE advocate and it's only YOU who will stand up for him/her. I'm just sorry I didn't think to homeschool sooner. My child's self esteem would have benefited GREATLY by this. Now I'm having to 'undo' the damage caused by putting him in the school system in the first place...
Good Luck!

ssborrow · 07-22-2004, 09:48 PM

I'm so sorry that happened to your son. It never should have. I would suggest that next year you schedule a conference with his teacher right away and tell her about your concerns. There is no reason for that to happen to anyone, and if the teacher is aware of his past problems she can nip any future problems in the bud.