Re: New here with questions
Only a doctor can diagnose AD/HD, but a good one will do it with information from the school. Your school should first do an eval and then you can take it to your doctor. I think you are doing the right thing with your kids.
As far as you are concerned, you certainly expressed yourself well enough in writing here in your post. It sounds like you just didn't have any guidance growing up and no help finding your niche and learning style. We focus so much in society on "what is wrong" with people, when really we should focus on "what are our strengths?"
Maybe math isn't your thing. Maybe you don't learn information best by reading. It is too bad you didn't have guidance, but at this point in your life, start looking for things you are GOOD at. What interests you? Sounds like you do well at kinder care. Take some adult ed classes in areas you like. It is time to move toward the future and focus on what you CAN do. Maybe you can go to a "life coach"?