I am thinking of you and hope you are resting up and that the pain has let up. You are probably nervous by now but you are going to be fine. Hang in there and it will all be better soon. Just know you have people pulling for you all around the world.
Hugs and well wishes to you
Long time, no speak - so sorry. How is everyone? I've got some reading to catch up on!!! I hope everyone is well though, I think of you guys all the time.
I haven't been in touch because Pete and I have had some problems - walked out 4 days after I got home from hospital actually. Anyway, things are ok at the moment and he's back home. The only problem is that I'm not sure I'll ever trust him again. Oh well. Another story for another day.
I'm pretty well. I have a big dent where my liver was (or where I assume it was!) - hasn't started filling in yet, but i hope it does soon! My scar looks pretty good, not that I see it often because it's always covered with hypafix tape and will stay that way for a few months yet, the surgeon says that it makes a big difference to the healing and width of the scar - we shall. I feel sick almost everytime I eat, which sucks. Did/does anyone else have problems with bloating? My stomach blows up like a balloon when I eat out - different types of food, I guess. It is agony. I have to say that I feel pretty good really, my liver enzyme tests are almost normal, which, apparently, is unheard of. I see my surgeon tomorrow and will hopefully get the path results then - I still don't know what it is...he did say that it may take a while as it's not clear??? Not sure what that means! I'll hopefully find out what the goss is though and what my life plan is - I did find out I lost 3.2 units of blood, which would account for how tired I am. Cannot believe how exhausted I feel.
So much love to everyone, sorry i haven't been around, it's been a pretty tough time. Love you ladies...talk soon xxx
juliet - hi mate. god how much more can you take and i also cant believe how alike we are. i so feel for you hun. how are things with you and pete now? cant believe im going thru a similar thing too. me and hubby just not good. hasnt been good in a while but we keep going for the sake of our son. this weekend has been awful, we have both said some horrible things to each other. i really dont care what he says to me anymore but it was said in front of our son. That is not on. What kind of rolemodel is that?? He would of left if he had anywhere to go! I feel so low at the moment . anyway hun, we are going to give it one last shot. i think we are going to move- yes i know more stress , but maybe a new start is what we need. who knows?? men hey - do my head in!!
julet i cant believe he walked out on day 4?? did you have someone with you?? mate i so wish i could come over and see you. i know im miles away but you are in my thoughts hun x x
I am so sorry you have had some marital problems as well. Sometimes it feels like we are being tested to the max. I try to say everything happens for a reason and it will work out somehow as it has to. It does not always work out the way we want but we adjust. Maybe you have yet to meet your soul mate. Your son will make it through even if your marriage does not. Just get him some counseling and make sure you both let him know you love him and it is not his fault. I married my husband Steve when I was 16 and after 10 years we divorced. We had two kids at the time and then I spent one year apart from him. It was due to his drinking and me being a single mom. Then he got his act together and we got back together and had a son. We have our up and downs mostly because of the bipolar daughter. It is so hard to recover in the middle of chaos but I am doing it. To my surprise Steve has been the best to me and I did not think he would be. In the past he never allowed me to be sick more than two days. He has really rose to the challenge and tends to my emotional needs as well which is a huge step for him. Our marriage is stronger now since this experience. My mom said in the first three days he did not visit the kids and she did not know if he was going to stick around. It is a huge stress to have major surgery and some handle it better than others. For us it has refreshed things between us. Hang in there because you are so special and I wish I could meet you and get our tatoos together.
I am so sorry to hear about your added stress. I tried to remember that the surgery was not only hard on me but the rest of my family. Pete probably just freaked out at all the pain you are in and the emotions you were going through. Try to be forgiving and know that he did not mean to hurt you but was probably scared. You will get better as I do everyday and things will be at least more normal for you all. But who knows what normal is not my household. lol I say the only reliable one in the family is the dog. I am thinking of everyone and I also looked at side effects of birth control and all is says is beign liver tumors. What about may need resection to take them out or could rupture. That is not enough information to warn you. Sorry I am in the mad phase again.
Caeila, Ashley, Linda, Beth, Katie, granolawife, and all of the newcomers,
Hope you are doing well and thinking of you and sending well wishes.
Hope you are resting and hanging in there. I pray for you to get the calmness you need before surgery. Hugs and love to you!
My parents are here and we're going to a hotel next to the hospital now. I still feel sick and I'm getting very cranky and hard to be around. Thank god this will all be over soon! I'll try and post as soon as I can or have someone else post for me. Thanks for all your support, it's been amazing.
Juliet, good lord, I can't believe all you've had to deal with! I don't know what your troubles with Pete are over, but 4 days after surgery, for him to turn his back on you...would take quite a lot to trust him again!!! I am so sorry you have had to deal with this on top of trying to heal. That extra stress is ridiculous. I had the bloating and digestion issues until almost 6 weeks out. Was horrible and I was so afraid that it would never go away...and then it just stopped. I am doing so much better now. Hang in there and know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I am so happy about your liver function test Rest up and keep Pete from getting in your head too much and you will be good as new soon! Big hugs out to you from FL!
Nessie, to you too...gheesh! I hope that you guys are able to work through things. Sometimes a fresh start somewhere new is just what is needed.
Prayers out to Katesela...
Beth, are you out there? how are you doing?
Juliet and Nessie...so sorry to hear about the men in your lives. Surgery is tough on everyone and everyone reacts and deals with stress in their own way. I know it isn't easy...but right now the world does need to revolve around you and you getting better!!! Hang in there and just know I'm thinking of you!
Granolawife...you'll have to keep me posted on pregnancy. I go in tomorrow to get my IUD out. Just nervous....
Katesela my dear....you will be fine. Just know I am saying a prayer for you right now!! You be strong and try to relax!!! Big HUGS to you!!