how to cope?
Hey guys, new here...
My mom was just diagnosed with a few serious disorders about 6 months ago (cirrhosis, breast cancer, thyroid disease) after years of avoiding doctors. She's taken the news horribly and has resigned herself to laying in bed all day. The doctors put her on a special diet of high protein and low salt but she barely eats and when she does it always ends up being some canned food high in salt. She won't get up and exercise much and I get that she feels bad being on chemo and all but some days she won't even get out of bed.
I live a few states over and have a very stressful career and it's hard for me to check up on her as much as I'd like to. She says she's lonely and scared and wants me to call her 4-5x per day but I just can't handle that many doses of depressing news. This makes me feel like a terrible person because I am always so down around her and I guess it discourages her, but she refuses to believe it when I tell her repeatedly that things will get better. She says she will always feel horrible for the rest of her life and that she just wants to die.
I'm sorry for the long rambling post but I don't know how to cope with this anymore. I know she's my mom and I want to support her, but how do I keep this from draining my entire life? There comes a point where I just want to take a break from it but she doesn't have a very good support network from alienating people and I don't want her to feel abandoned. This depression is really bringing me down and starting to effect my personal relationships. I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to, and I feel like a bad person for thinking she should be handling this better by now and being responsible for her care.