Re: Need some help please
Hi AliRieg, It's very difficult to convince drinkers the time has come to say goodbye to alcohol... Perhaps you could start by agreeing with her! No more alcohol until her liver is completely healed. Set a initial target date for 90 days, with a new doctor visit for updated blood labs to see how her liver is doing.
If her labs aren't perfect, then insist, lets wait another 90 days and get re-tested. If she can go 6 months without alcohol, odds are, she may discover she likes the way she feels now and may not need to drink again.
If she "cheats" during this time, you will have an argument she is not being realistic about her recovery, and needs to work harder on this.
In the end, it may be an exercise in futility, as drinkers tend to drink until they get in really serious trouble; but any vacation from alcohol you can inspire her to take will do her a world of good.
Getting sober for even 3 months can help prove to the patient "it can be done"! Usually there is a relapse, but when health problems reoccur, the memory of previous successes with abstinence can create a positive mindset this may be possible again.
It's hard banging your head against a wall of stubbornness, but trying is the best you can do. Please try to find a temporary solution. It may not hold, but it may also plant a seed in her mind. If she can live without alcohol for 3 months, she can quit again, and regain her health.
Best of Luck to you both!
Last edited by BillinSD; 02-21-2013 at 10:47 PM.