In answer to your question.. NO you are NOT crazy!!!! I am unsure about how your doctor came to the conclusion that you are a carrier for Lupus. I have NEVER heard that before! Lupus can be genetic, but I would think that since you have the symptoms and the blood work that you have Lupus. You don't need a pair of glasses for the sun, those of us with Lupus are actually REALLY sensitive to the sun. Do you get hives after you have been exposed to sunlight? That would make sense because we can be allergic to the sun. I break out in hives and a rash after being in the sun without sunblock on. It is common to have anemia from Lupus too, many of us have it! I have both iron deficient anemia and B12 related anemia. A double whammy! And you do have the symptoms of Lupus, that is definite!
The migranes and headaches concern me. You should be tested for Antiphospholipid Syndrome, which can cause your body to produce clots! Have you had a history of miscarraige, DVT (leg clot), stroke or TIA (mini stroke)? If you get tingling in extremties that can be a symptom too. I posted about APS in the MS forum, it is labelled "Symptoms of Stroke etc? MS is often misdiagnosed for APS" Please go and read that and see if you fit. If you do, you need to have the blood work done for it, they are the anticardiolipin test and the Lupus anticoaglant. If you are positive for either of those or both then chances are that you have it! It can be treated with warfarin (blood thinner) or in less severe cases (no history of stroke etc) a baby asprin a day. Please get that blood work done! There are cases of "sero negative" APS too though, meaning that the blood work is negative but the person has symptoms of the disorder. Blood work is not perfect, so people can get blood work on a day when there body isnt kicking up the antibodies! Very confusing I know
I would suggest that you go to another specialist to get looked over. I think that this one that you saw was not very bright! Does your GP think that you have it? If so, get him/her to refer you back to a specialist that is good with patients with Lupus ASAP. There are many good ones out there too, but lots that arent good either. It took me a long time with many Lupus specialists in order to get diagnosed properly. It can be a long road, but you have the blood work so I hope they can get you organized soon. Take care!!! YOUR NOT CRAZY!!!
P.S. Stay away from tanning beds, they can make us really sick!