Okay, I am really beside myself now. My fiancee has been doing some very annoying things, and I don't know if they are related to psychosis or not. She is very disagreeable, she hates to be wrong, she shoots down my thoughts/feelings/ideas, she puts standards on others that she sometimes doesn't meet herself, just to name a few things. It has gotten to the point where I don't know if I want to be around her, but she is so sensitive, and it is hard to come to her with anything. Oh, she also seems to think she is such a good girl, so it would be hard to go to her with any of the things I see. I have tried, and she would just start crying and apologize, but it seemed to me she was just doing that to keep me with her, and I haven't noticed any significant changes. It would be hard to convince someone who doesn't seem to think there is anything wrong with her that there are serious issues that need to be dealt with. I am totally stressed about this whole thing, and I don't know what to do. Oh yeah, I keep seeing also that she is very self absorbed. I would appreciate any advice anyone could give me. I am thinking that some of these things may not be lupus related, but I am open to any help anyone can give me. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers as well. It is hard to relate on this message board how stressed I have been. Of course, I don't want to add any stress to her life, knowing that it would just make her lupus problems worse. I just don't know what to do. We are beginning premarital counseling today with my pastor, and I know some things are going to come out that way, but I can't expect him to fix our problems. I know they need to be dealt with one on one, but I am struggling with how to do that. I have noticed that sometimes she blames her condition or past events in her life for what I bring up, so it makes it very difficult to say anything, plus always being shot down doesn't make things very easy. Lately, I haven't been able to say anything for fear of how she will respond. so any advice you all could give will be much appreciated. Thank you.
Last edited by buford1975; 07-26-2007 at 09:15 AM.