Dear Joy, Welcome, from one of your new shoulders!
I'm glad you found this group. People here WILL understand. And as for your family & friends, would seeing a few key points in writing help? There are some excellent hardcovers on lupus, written by well-known rheumatologists, which you could find in most libraries & bookstores. One author is Dr. Daniel Wallace & another is Dr. Robert Lahita. One of the most interesting things I found in these books was a list of problems typically encountered in lupus, with a percentage for each. At the very top was fatigue (which doesn't surprise any of us, huh?)
I've certainly read in various books & articles that women often flare during & right after pregnancy. Are you more tired now than during your typical flare? Are you on medication? Do you have regular follow-ups? Avoid sun? FYI, the authors I mentioned cover pregnancy in lupus, too.
Hang tough, OK? I hope you keep posting. Bye for now, with best wishes, Vee P.S. Congratulation on your little one!