Just my opinion here, but all of us with lupus of any type must look into other factors, rather than immediately put it down to our illness. Before you jump on my head, what I mean is when you consider we have such a chronic illness and in the main not many people even want to understand us, because we always "look so well", not that we want to look ill, but this causes so much frustration I feel.
I have had SLE for 30+ years and I still get annoyed at others for not even taking the time to ask how I am doing. I blame myself though for this because I have never ever said how unwell I feel at times. I always tell others I am doing fine, thank you. I have done this for so many years, that I think now people I come into contact with would find it strange if I even start to say "oh, I feel a bit off today". Folks don't seem to be able to cope if I am not being my usual strong self.
This is why I really appreciate this forum, because I, and all of you, can come here and offload. This will help with the fear, frustration and anger that comes with having a chronic illness. The thing is too that not all of us have others to talk to about our medical or emotional condition. I only have my darling husband and it is hard on him at times. A chronic illness is something that really takes it out of you emotionally too in a big, big way. We get so frightened about things that happen to us, and if we can't discuss it with our families or anyone close, then it builds up in our minds and we get more and more frustrated and scared and then the explosion of temper can come out big time.
I am always here if anyone wishes to let rip about anything or feel that they need to ask any questions. I can only talk of how having SLE has affected me personally, but I am willing to share my story.