Re: Losing it with spouse! Anyone else?
I'm so sorry that you do not have a supportive home environment. May I suggest that you try to find support elsewhere? There is a Lyme support group in NYC. Some research will probably turn up groups nearer to your area as well. The stress that is generated trying to "get through" to your husband is only feeding the illness. Stress is one of the worst things for Lyme, probably for any illness, but with Lyme the effects seem to be immediate.
Maybe if you find support elsewhere you won't have to try to convince your husband of anything and, just possibly, without you wishing things to be different, he may start to turn around unbidden. We can't control other people and often when they feel someone is trying to control them they will go in the opposite direction.
Try to give yourself the love and support that you want (along with finding like-minded lymies) and then you will probably have less anger toward your husband. I'm not saying you shouldn't be angry, but I would just ask "Is it helping your situation at all?".
I wish you the very best and feel certain that a lyme support group would help alleviate much of this present situation. Because we have all been through feeling alone and lonely in this illness there are understanding and loving Lyme groups to be a part of. If you can't find one (but I'm sure you will) just keep coming back here!