sunshine73

I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'm about to fly apart at the seams here and I'm in desperate need of some information, support, a slap upside the head, whatever...

Here's the story:

My husband (36) has had a small lump on the back of his neck (on the right, towards the center, an inch or so inside the hairline) for the last four years or so. It's about 6 mm around (we measured against a pencil eraser and it's slightly smaller) and pretty firm to the touch. It's almost perfectly round. It doesn't move freely, but does 'slip' slightly under the skin (or with it, it's difficult to tell).

Anyway, in the last four years this has not changed in size or shape. It's not tender and visually, you wouldn't note it at all, it's definitely under the skin. However, I'm terrified that it's something serious and am always convinced it's getting larger...even though when we measure it against the eraser, it measures the same size as it always has.

My husband is convinced that it's nothing to worry about, he thinks that it's just a cyst or a permanently slightly enlarged lymph node. He maintains that, if it were something serious, it would have grown in the last four years or he would have been experiencing other symptoms (which he has not).

However, I'm still terrified. I think I've got him convinced to see a doctor this week, just to put my mind at ease, but since our PCP decided to drop our insurance and since she's a part of the largest association of physicians in the area that means that the entire medical group has dropped our insurance. So, I'm on the hunt for a new doctor and not having much luck and meanwhile I'm really freaking out here. I wanted to ask if it's likely I'm overreacting and worrying needlessly over something that is most likely non-cancerous. I'm so worried he has some kind of lymphoma that I could just sit in the corner and cry.