Loss/Grief - Lymphomas Message Board

blueeyes135 · 09-06-2008, 07:56 PM

I am very sad. My husband died in 2006 from cancer. It has been the most difficult two years of my life. I try to keep busy. I joined a bereavement group which has been helpful, but it still does not take away my pain. He was not only my husband, but my best friend. I cry daily, it seems to help relieve my pain. I keep in touch with his family and they are very supportive along with my family.

I try to keep busy with my widowed friends who share the same grief as I do. I wonder if the pain and the loss gets any easier? I have read several books on grieveing and they are helpful, but you have to work through the grief and loneliness on your own, it seems. I have been told by several widows, it gets easier as time goes on.

singer78 · 09-15-2008, 08:25 PM

Hello.
My heart aches for you.
Perhaps you should try another Board here, too.
I think there might be another category for grieving (or losing a loved one)...not sure, though.

I had a very hard time losing my sister & it's been 8 years.
I was told, after 4 years, it becomes easier, which, I suppose is true.
I think one "accepts" it, after 4 years. Until then, it's almost like it's not true.
I can't tell you how many times I picked up the phone to call her---
She was like a 2nd mother to me.

I'm glad you joined a group.
Two years is a pretty short time, really. You have every right to grieve and go through the healing process. Just be assured that your friends are right. Everything heals with time.
In the meantime, nurture yourself.

God Bless.
S.