ArmadilloPie,
You sound a bit depressed and just plain down in the dumps - which is OK! I am sure many, if not all of us, have felt/feel the same way one time or another. I try to look at the good things in life, be grateful. I am so grateful that I have family, friends, my dog, don't have any life threatening diseases, able to walk, see/hear, have a job, a home, a computer, and be able afford the little luxuries of life (vits and more vits! LOL!) I tell myself there are a lot of people worse off! Lots of people, young and old, with serious illness, no family, no friends, homeless, jobless, clueless....
The way you have taken care of yourself, I'm sure you're very attractive - you just feel you're not..probably being a bit hard on yourself! Also, I'm sure you know that what's inside counts the more and think of all your experiences and acquired knowledge - they all count a heck of alot more than just looking good. Yes, there is a lot of emphasis put on beauty and youth these days! But, you know, I wouldn't want to be in those people's place if you paid me...must be hard work to have to look good every minute, to keep up an image, to be so concerned what others think of you, and never really get to enjoy life and EAT! LOL!
You're just going thru a phase right now and things will pass and I bet you will feel like your old self again and your self-esteem and confidence will come back! You said you feel up and down - so it isn't all the time! This whole meno stuff have a tendency to put many of us in this depressed mood - mostly b/c we're tired of feeling bad and weird, therefore, you feel unmotivated, unattractive, etc. etc. Pat yourself on the back, you are taking care of yourself, exercising, have friends, doing the best you can...
P.S. Go and have some beer & french fries! May I put a smile on your face!
molly
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Originally Posted by armadillo pie I always told myself that when I reached this time of my life I was going to gracefully sail through it. I have spent years eating well, execising, developing a spiritual life, and taking fairly good care of myself. But now that I am here- it seems quite the contrary. I feel like I am up and down daily, I feel so unattractive, bloated, non sexual, and generally tired. I put out a good front at work and in the public but internally I feel so awkward and not myself most of the time. I live in a big city that values youth and beauty and before I never paid attention to it or when I did I had a good sense of myself and felt smart, attractive, vibrant, and in good shape. These days I feel like my brain has strunk and I do not want to take on to much. My ambition has ceased and I have few goals right now. I also know that this will pass sometime in the future- could be years from now depending on how long this peri-menopause- menopuase syslve lasts but in the meantime, the now is all that matters.
I continue to take care of myself, exercising, having friends, a spiritual foundation and therapy, but I feel so unmotivated . So please share you self and if anyone has any tips, I know we would all welcome them. | |
Its very subtle.......My perspective beings to change about things.....I start sighing.....my chest feels heavy......and if I go too many days without estrogen, I start crying during the day at every little thing and I get so depressed. If I take my estrogen everyday I don't get to that point. I have to make myself do things I use to have no problem doing. I use to love to exercise and walk.... I have always loved doing that. But, this year, I can't seem to get in the groove. I did join an exercise program and make myself go, cuz my body needs it.....I find it helps my mental state too.
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