I posted the original questions and thought I would post what is happening. As this is the UK things do not happen fast!!
I went to my GP who made the appointment for the hospital.
I was examined (and I felt like a slab of meat) I could not understand half of what was being asked and felt although it was my body - little or NO understanding was taking place.
I have chosen not to have children - I was asked why (more than was essential to my case notes ) and made to feel abnormal - the understanding that I/we had made this choice was clearly not understood.
When I said I had not taken any treatment for the menopause no HRT nothing - accept trying to do it as natural as possible and I listed some of the things I had uses, soya milk, red clover no comment as to whether this was good or bad was passed.
The examination in it's self did not hurt althought it was all so cold and very clinical (I really felt the need of a good friend to cry on).
Bloods to check for Thyroid and hormone levels were then taken. I am also booked to go for a pelvic ulstra sound in two weeks.
No reasurrance at all was given and I have to sit and wait to hear back from the above tests. The waiting is by far the worse.
I will keep you posted and I thank the people who have replied to me. This board has made me realise that ALL is not doom and gloom despite what the doctors do and do not know or tell you.