Feel like life is on hold... - Menopause Message Board

Hopefully · 12-30-2004, 11:00 AM

I am a rather ambition adventurous person, a life long learner (a career student

), with a list of reasonable attainable goals that I've had to put on hold since the worst part of perimenopause began (back in 2002).

Does anyone else feel that they've taken a slight detour and had to put things on hold because of their symptoms? I'm really not whining, I'd just like to hear from others who understand and maybe some who are now back on track.

Thanks!

molly123 · 12-30-2004, 02:50 PM

Hi Hopefully

I can totally relate! I don't lead much of an exciting life but I wasn't able to function at all when I was at my worse. I had to stop working which was very unusual for me esp. working F/T for almost 30 years. I left things undone - my house, laundry, walking the dogs, haircuts, dental cleanings, etc. It really wasn't even a choice - I had to b/c I just couldn't.

In several books, it has been recommended that we (at menopausal age) have to make changes, start thinking and taking care of ourselves. I never thought it would be all that true but it is! I think it's absolutely OK after years of being a superwoman to take time for yourself! Others will manage just fine w/o having to have your constant attention! You'll probably be amazed (and hurt even?! LOL). Find some quiet time for yourself, go for walks even if you have hardly any energy, take long baths, have a good cry, listen to music, read, learn to meditate. If you can, take a med leave from work for a while. I personally think every employer should allow meno leave for all women (with pay!) LOL! All this will help soothe you away some of the anxiety and stress that are contributors to why you're feeling so crappy. Throw out your "to do" lists - I'm sure that list has been around for years anyway! When the time is right, you will get back to the groove of things and you'll meet the goals you want to accomplish in your lifetime.

Be a strong, confident woman - and you'll get back on track real soon!

not40 · 12-30-2004, 05:26 PM

when i was on the hormone patch i found i didn't have energy for anything and didn't care about much at all. me or the house. now i am on bio-identical hormones and i feel more like myself and i have an interest in me and keeping my house. it makes a difference, but at the time i didn't know what was wrong with me.

catluvr4 · 12-30-2004, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Hopefully

I am a rather ambition adventurous person, a life long learner (a career student

), with a list of reasonable attainable goals that I've had to put on hold since the worst part of perimenopause began (back in 2002).

Does anyone else feel that they've taken a slight detour and had to put things on hold because of their symptoms? I'm really not whining, I'd just like to hear from others who understand and maybe some who are now back on track.

Thanks!

Hopfully, I'm right here with you. Like you, I was adventurous and a career student; now I do nothing but hypernate and grow flowers. And that scares me. For now, I'm alright with this because that's what I need right now. On the other hand, I'm scared to death that I'll be like this forever. As I'm sitting here sweating, shaking, buzzing, and panicking (all for no reason), I'm greateful I don't have to go anywhere. Talking about double standards for myself.

CAT

catluvr4 · 12-30-2004, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by molly123

Hi Hopefully

I can totally relate! I don't lead much of an exciting life but I wasn't able to function at all when I was at my worse. I had to stop working which was very unusual for me esp. working F/T for almost 30 years. I left things undone - my house, laundry, walking the dogs, haircuts, dental cleanings, etc. It really wasn't even a choice - I had to b/c I just couldn't.

Be a strong, confident woman - and you'll get back on track real soon!

Molly, thanks for sharing this. Now I don't feel so alone and lazy. I tell you though, it's hard to stay strong and confident when the hormones whip the heck out you

. If someone would tell me that I feel like this until a certain date and then everything would be alright, I could deal with this better. It's the uncertainty that makes it so hard. Thank you.

CAT