Painful Intercourse - Menopause Message Board

nornie · 01-05-2005, 08:49 PM

Hello Ladies,

I used to post here more often, but I am now post-menopausal and feeling much better (hope for you ladies - peri does pass!!) Of course, with Post-M comes different problems. I'm not sure if I have this worse than others, or if others have it but it's just not being talked about. But I'm coming out of the closet with this because I can't stand it and need some advice. Hope I don't offend, but there's no delicate way to put it. Intercourse has become horribly painful! I totally goo myself up with Replens and KY and I can't say it's really helped much. And of course when it hurts you don't want to do it very much and DH is quite frustrated. He also hates to know he's causing me pain. I never thought this would be this bad - although the libido was low during peri, I could still get into the mood, and sometimes would just force myself to do it, but once I got into things it was fine. But now even when I'm in the mood, it's torture. I've actually shed tears from the pain. Anyone have any suggestions? I know there is an estrogen ring that you can insert so that the hormone is concentrated in the area, but as there is cancer in the family I am just so hesitant to use any type of hormone.

Sorry for being explicit, but there's no polite way to talk about this.

Thanks for any input.

Nornie

Belle2003 · 01-06-2005, 12:52 AM

Have you asked your GYN for advice? He or she may have many solutions to the problem.

kittenlover · 01-06-2005, 07:07 AM

I have no suggestions ...just wanted to say that I'm not offended and no one should be.
This is all a part of life and we all want to be comfortable. Thanks for putting it out there for those who may have help or are having problems.
I agree...talk to your gyn, maybe there is something available...could you have a cyst or polyp of some sort adding to the pain? Post back if you find relief!!

nornie · 01-06-2005, 07:54 AM

Thank you for the replies. I do have an appointment with my gyn, but it's not until March. Funny thing is, this really got bad after I had a cervical polyp removed. I wonder if it didn't heal right or something? I had a couple of post-op checkups and he never said anything about it not healing right or anything. The polyp never bothered me when it was there, I'm sorry I ever had it removed.

Nornie

molly123 · 01-06-2005, 09:08 AM

Hi Nornie,
I can't be of much help here but do give you credit for bringing up this subject and by all means, I don't think it is offensive at all. That is what we're here for - to talk about all the things that are bugging us. It's pretty common that almost all women will have vaginal dryness. My gyn prescribed me Estrace which is an estrogen cream b/c I bled so easily during a pap. I used the cream couple of times only (I have samples + 6 refills!) - and then my GP said the estrogen still enters the system as HRT and told me not to use it, so I don't. I did read that KY gel was the best. As suggested, maybe your gyn have other solutions....

molly