does anyone else on menopause think about death - Menopause Message Board

angelstar · 07-02-2005, 05:17 AM

I think it could be the lack of hormones or the aniexty but I have never felt this way before and I don't know what is wrong with me. Has anyone else felt this aswell?

babydog · 07-02-2005, 06:38 AM

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Originally Posted by angelstar

I think it could be the lack of hormones or the aniexty but I have never felt this way before and I don't know what is wrong with me. Has anyone else felt this aswell?

I think the cessation of periods or the process therof reminds us that we have hit a milestone in our lifespan. Couple that with learning that your best friends sister just died of a heart attack or cancer adds to it.

I recently met a bunch of people I used to work with at another employer. We are all roughly the same age. I would say I was probably the heathiest among them. Many already diagnosed with cancer, diabetes and heart disease.

It seems at this age you attend more funerals as relatives from the previous generation die off and you realize that yours is the next generation in line.

Add to that the fact that you are taking more medical tests now to check for diseases you thought you could blow off 10 - 15 years ago because you thought you were too young. A day off from work is often used to schedule something like a mamogram or a colonoscopy.

Yeah I'm with you on this one.

Sissypie · 07-02-2005, 06:55 AM

I agree with Babydog. A lot of things that you never thought of before start applying to you, or someone you know. The first time your doctor starts saying the phrase....."at your age" and starts defining you in the category of being in an older generation, it really hits home.

I'm not even in my 50's, but perimenopause makes you start thinking differently.

Have you ever done the age counting thing? Like well, I have this many years left if I live to (fill in the blank)?

Anyway, you aren't alone. I can certainly relate!

Sandi

ainfante · 07-02-2005, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by angelstar

I think it could be the lack of hormones or the aniexty but I have never felt this way before and I don't know what is wrong with me. Has anyone else felt this aswell?

It is the anxiety of just feeling how you are feeling that causes this feeling. Also we call it when the dread feeling comes over you. You should go back on this board and read about menopausal symptoms, perimenopause symptoms. It shouldn't be too far back to find. Many have posted there and you will see that feeling as death came over or you are going to die is a part of this transition. But it really accompanies anxiety and anxiety is a real issue with meno.

JudeNZ · 07-03-2005, 03:49 PM

You are by no means alone on this one. Probably every person who writes about their anxiety on here, would also admit they get anxious because they think there is going to be something wrong and they're going to die.

What the other girls say makes perfect sense, so much has been going wrong, we get bogged down with symptoms. Also hearing about others upsets us, and I know I can get totally thown by someone a similar age as me getting ill or dying.

I like to think as we get through peri we start to fucntion again more normally. Remember our minds are our most powerful asset, and it is up to us how we use it. Not easy I know, but focus on all the good things about yourself and others that are doing well. Good luck

Jude