Depressed - Menopause Message Board

Linma2428 · 09-14-2005, 05:16 PM

Not sure if this is the right place to post this. I am just so depressed. I am not sure if its perimenopause related or not. I don't think I am depressed the way some people get. In that I mean I don't stay in bed and sleep all day. Just feel sad and blah. I eat all day and night and think about stuff. I started at TOPS last Thursday and have actually gained weight. It seems I can't get myself to care enough about loosing weight to actually control my appetite. I was on progesterone for about 6 months and couldn't tell any difference in the way I felt. I wish there was a way of knowing if this is from perimenopause or having a depression problem. I think all the time about the fact I am 49 and don't look like I use to. I wonder if I am over thinking about it. I have no feelings of excitement about life and yet I don't want to die or anything. At the same time I feel kind of hyper although I don't appear or seem hyper. I would like to kind of be by myself and not have to worry about my husband or sons and what is going on with their lives. I guess I want someone to take care of me in all aspects. Don't want to be responsible for paying the bills or cooking meals or having to clean. Yet I do all those things like anyone else but I complain about it long the way. Then I think how sad it would be not to have my husband or sons in my life and will feel bad wanting to be alone. I feel sorry for my family in a way having to put up with me and then I think will good let them have to put up with me like I have had to put up with them. I guess I am just a screw ball.
Linda M

nornie · 09-14-2005, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Linma2428

Not sure if this is the right place to post this. I am just so depressed. I am not sure if its perimenopause related or not. I don't think I am depressed the way some people get. In that I mean I don't stay in bed and sleep all day. Just feel sad and blah. I eat all day and night and think about stuff. I started at TOPS last Thursday and have actually gained weight. It seems I can't get myself to care enough about loosing weight to actually control my appetite. I was on progesterone for about 6 months and couldn't tell any difference in the way I felt. I wish there was a way of knowing if this is from perimenopause or having a depression problem. I think all the time about the fact I am 49 and don't look like I use to. I wonder if I am over thinking about it. I have no feelings of excitement about life and yet I don't want to die or anything. At the same time I feel kind of hyper although I don't appear or seem hyper. I would like to kind of be by myself and not have to worry about my husband or sons and what is going on with their lives. I guess I want someone to take care of me in all aspects. Don't want to be responsible for paying the bills or cooking meals or having to clean. Yet I do all those things like anyone else but I complain about it long the way. Then I think how sad it would be not to have my husband or sons in my life and will feel bad wanting to be alone. I feel sorry for my family in a way having to put up with me and then I think will good let them have to put up with me like I have had to put up with them. I guess I am just a screw ball.
Linda M

Linda,

I'm so sorry. You sound so sad and I know how that feels. Depression takes many forms - not everyone lays about and sleeps all day - but they can still be very depressed. It doesn't really matter whether it's from peri or not - the end result is the same - you feel bad. There is help out there in terms of anti depressants. Please see a doctor and talk about getting on some type of medication. You should not have to suffer like this. It will take a couple of weeks to find the right meds and they all take a few weeks to really kick in, so you'll have to push through for a while, but eventually you will feel good again. Please don't suffer, the physical symptoms of peri are hard enough.

Take care and stay on the boards. Everyone here is very supportive. It's a great group of ladies.

Nornie

pixiek · 09-14-2005, 11:50 PM

Hi, at your age, it would be very wise to have your thyroid checked as it can get "off balance" . Peri and thryroid symptoms, I have found out recently, are very, very similar. And I have heard so cases of depression being helped with thyroid meds. I am not saying this is it, but it certainly would be worth a blood test. If you do, make sure you are blood tested for FT4, FT3 and TSH and the antibodies for the thyroid autoimmune diseases. I wonder if you have any other symptoms? I had awful depression (like yours,not wanting to do anything, blah...) when I was suffering from hypothyrodisism. Hope this helps. Pixiek

ainfante · 09-15-2005, 08:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Linma2428

Not sure if this is the right place to post this. I am just so depressed. I am not sure if its perimenopause related or not. I don't think I am depressed the way some people get. In that I mean I don't stay in bed and sleep all day. Just feel sad and blah. I eat all day and night and think about stuff. I started at TOPS last Thursday and have actually gained weight. It seems I can't get myself to care enough about loosing weight to actually control my appetite. I was on progesterone for about 6 months and couldn't tell any difference in the way I felt. I wish there was a way of knowing if this is from perimenopause or having a depression problem. I think all the time about the fact I am 49 and don't look like I use to. I wonder if I am over thinking about it. I have no feelings of excitement about life and yet I don't want to die or anything. At the same time I feel kind of hyper although I don't appear or seem hyper. I would like to kind of be by myself and not have to worry about my husband or sons and what is going on with their lives. I guess I want someone to take care of me in all aspects. Don't want to be responsible for paying the bills or cooking meals or having to clean. Yet I do all those things like anyone else but I complain about it long the way. Then I think how sad it would be not to have my husband or sons in my life and will feel bad wanting to be alone. I feel sorry for my family in a way having to put up with me and then I think will good let them have to put up with me like I have had to put up with them. I guess I am just a screw ball.
Linda M

You know LInda, what you are going through is so normal for the change. I know exactly how you feel, there are times I don't want to do a thing either except eat and feel blah, don't want to cook, don't want to clean, etc. and I never use to be like this. It's the hormonal change that makes you feel this way. I take Prozac which did help a lot but sometimes I think I'm pooping out on that too. Try to do some self hypnosis or meditation concentrating on yourself, visualizing going through menopause step by step and feeling and loving yourself better. IT's hard to get the love outside, we think we need that from the people around us and we do, but we must love ourselves first. I hope this helps, you have us to vent to here and I'm always open to discuss anything. Keep your chin up.

Happysmom53 · 09-15-2005, 09:42 AM

Hi Linda, You know I have exactly the same feelings many days....mine seems
to come and go. Other than walking, I have stopped working out completely, which I did faithfully for 5 years, then one day, I didnt want to go any more!

I had my thyroid checked this time last year, the
dr. said it was ok, but I am going to have it checked again. I am 52,
having several months at a time where I have no period or spotting...
sometimes I think this will NEVER end!!! As a new chapter in the book
of life, once I am finished with this change, I hope I am still me.....I have
heard some people have personality changes, I like me! And dont want
to be something else! other than a young old lady!

I always read
this board every day, and appreciate everyone's knowledge....!!!!!
Keep you chin up......tomorrow is a better day!
Linda B