Is this ovararian failure? Are you sure it is menopause and not just no/low estradoil, because you are having many of those symptoms it sounds like. Look at the websire earlymenopause.com and look into the blood count info, you need to have BOTH low estradiol AND high FSH for it to truely be menopause. Ask for your blood results, the exact numbers, note what time of the month the blood was taken and what numbers that lab uses as regular. Estradiol needs to be probabably 35 pg/mL or below and FHS probably needs to be about 20 mIU/mL or higher for menopause. Once you get the exact results, consult with another ob/gyn about your condition and a treatment plan. If your insurance does not allow that, try a free clinic or planned parenthood, they might at least be able to make a free phone call to an ob/gyn and get advice. GOOD LUCK!