Is hating your husband a symptom of peri-meno?? - Menopause Message Board

Mistyeyze · 03-03-2006, 03:09 PM

Just answer the question.

pixiek · 03-03-2006, 04:47 PM

Actually I have read that some ladies get so turned off by even the THOUGHT of sex that they come to have negative feelings and disgust of DH.

giddyup715 · 03-03-2006, 08:06 PM

LOL Misty. I don't think "hating your husband" is a symptom, but yes, I've had those awful "almost demonic" feelings too. .....Giddy's head spins around....

Seriously, one minute you love him, next minute you hate him.
Think now, the little things that irritate the heck outta you...now your husband is one of those little things. If he doesn't put softener sheets in the dryer, if he vacuums everyroom downstairs and it takes less than 5 minutes, if he rinses out a cup instead of washing it and puts it back in the cupboard, if he cross-contaminates when he cooks

or leaves toast crumbs in the butter, throws his Hane's on the floor when the basket is 2 inches away, basically ANYTHING that he does, and it ****es ya off....yeah that's peri-menopause.
One night I got so mad at my husband (he woke me up in the middle of the night) and I hollered at him "I hate you....most of the time..." just like I would say to my dad when I was a little kid. LMAO.

I don't know why I was feeling so angry towards my husband. He treats me like a queen. He gives me foot rubs after work almost daily, he's always happy and good-looking, very witty, women would love to have him, every friend of mine is envious of the way he treats me. Gosh, after that outburst of mine that night, I felt about a 1/2" tall. I told my g/f's at work what I did and they know him and told me to

"quit treating him like....crap", and that I am really lucky. So now when I obsess about the things he does, I keep my mouth shut and chalk it up to "peri-menopause-madness" and remind myself that in the morning it won't be this bad and I will feel stupid for even thinking this way (even though my heart is pumping so hard and my face is turning red and sweat is running down my neck).
Even though the hormones are causing you to feel this way, think and rationalize why you feel this way. Has he changed? Or have you changed and you are less tolerant of his behavior? Or are your hormones running (or ruining) your life? If you feel that they are ruining your life then talk to your Dr.
I think if most women responded to this, you'd find it a common thing with peri.

Linma2428 · 03-04-2006, 05:56 AM

I agree with hating your husband and perimenopause. I am in that group.

Linda M

manyboys · 03-04-2006, 06:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Linma2428

I agree with hating your husband and perimenopause. I am in that group.

Linda M

Count me in. I also have at least two other girlfriends (same age) who would also join the group. I think it might be best if we could all be shipped off to a spa in the Caribbean for the 5-10 years before it's all over. That way will would not be a danger to our marriages.