Perimenopause and hurt feelings - Menopause Message Board

viktik · 03-11-2006, 04:43 PM

Hi everyone,

I usually post on the weekends from home, but I may register at work too, so I can respond to some of you more often!

Anyway, this past week at work I noticed that really little things hurt my feelings. I work at a large church, and my co-workers went over to the gym to get some goodies from a brunch they were having, and since I work at the end of the hall for the lead pastor, I didn't know they were going over. I felt left out and my feelings were hurt. I am wondering if peri makes us more sensitive and hurt by things that ordinarily wouldn't hurt us...

Do any of you feel hurt more easily, and like you could cry over the least little thing...?? I don't want to be this way, because the gals I work with are some of the sweetest people I have ever known!

Thanks in advance for your input!

Lynn

Belle2003 · 03-11-2006, 10:03 PM

Yes, this has happened to me. My daughter went away for the summer to a college camp. She would send emails and one email she sent got me really upset. When I re-read it later, I could not believe how I over reacted. It was embarrassing. I realized that I was becoming overly sensitive to everything. That is when I found this board and learned about the perimenopause book by Anne Gittleman called "Before the change: taking charge of your perimenopause". Her suggestions really made a difference in my symptoms.
Perhaps you can check this book out at your library and read up on what you can do for all sorts of perimenopause symptoms.

wiredqs · 03-12-2006, 10:19 AM

I sure remember this problem with MIL, every time I saw her she would start whining and crying about her hurt feelings. Once she got through the 'pause she could discuss things like everyone else. She used to get upset if the waitress in a restuarant was abrupt, things like that.

Mistyeyze · 03-12-2006, 12:58 PM

This happens to me too. It usually preceeds a "hate my husband" moment.... it's really frustrating because I know I'm being irrational..... why does this happen?? I can't believe hormones can have so much control over emotions.

jitteryme · 03-12-2006, 01:22 PM

Not so much the hurt feelings here, although I know that I would have felt the exact same way you did if I had been in your shoes. I am feeling just more sensitive and emotional overall. Little things get to me. I can cry really easily and I've noticed that I will cry at things that I never would have before.

I also notice that overall, I am much less judgmental and more caring about other people's problems and their feelings.