I'm sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time, but at least you have found an outlet here at this board.
Your symptoms sound quite familiar since I'm going through perimenopause which comes with so many interesting symptoms
. Have you seen your doctor to rule out other possibilities? I don't have the vaginal dryness, but I know that there are meds. that can help.
Since you do not want to try an antidepressant what else have you tried?
I went through a period of time earlier this year feeling off balanced, had trouble concentrating, and feeling like I was leaning towards the right when I was walking or sitting. I found relief by following the suggestion of some of the ladies at this board by trying EFA (a mixture of borage oil, flaxseed oil, fish oil, primrose oil). Within a couple of weeks all the symptoms that I listed above were gone.
Have you looked into bioidentical/compounded hormones? What about vitamins and other supplements?
I hope that you find support and information at this board that will help you. I've been blessed by the information, knowledge and support that I've received.