I take both Buspar and an anti-depressant called Wellbutrin. The Wellbutrin has very few side-effects. There are also other anti-depressants with limited side effects-however; you must do your homework because some of them do cause weight gain.
Sometimes it is best to consult with a psychiatrist in regards to antidepressant information instead of an MD as they are more informative about psych meds, and which ones would be more suitable for your body chemistry. If the Buspar isn't working, they also have other anti-anxiety meds that work well- and some MD's just prescribe them without follow ups or they give longer than needed refills.
So, that is why it is good to seek out the attention of a pdoc if you are comfortable with that. They are more knowledgable with treatment and prescribing follow ups as to how you are doing as a patient with the medications.
I hope I didn't over whelm you. I had a hysterectomy at a very early age, and it has really effected me in many ways. Finally, after 6 years, I think the depression has lifted. It feels like I'm living life again.
Journaling is something I do as well. I write to sort out my emotions that turmoil myself up with the mood swings I have during the week. Not that I write in in every day, but a few times a week. I do it for myself to feel good.
Menopause stinks. The hot flashes are for the birds! Men just do not get it. I had some hot flashes the other night and when I tried to explain it to my DH- who is 37, he just gave me a really dumb look. It made me cry- of course!
Hang in there. I hope your depression gets better soon. It is something I can relate to very well.