Ladies who are post menopause. Sid i know you are but I am not sure of ages. Most of the girls are young so it might be me and you. Had the last one on march 11, 2004. Yes i was thrilled so i remember the date well. Am done with all the hot flashes and night sweats thank God. it took two full years but I am comfortable. question??? every month around the 11th I am PMS. and I mean PMS. the irritibility, insomnia, cravings, bloating, fatigue all of it. only lasts a couple of days but I find I now get depressed and very anxious. would like to cry for maybe 2 days all day. Do you think there is any link between being post-menaopause emotions and PTSD, anxiety, depression? I know this might sound like a dumb question But it just seems my emotions go crazy around this time and I guess I am not sure if that's what it is or if the sadness will come and go like this for awhile due to the PTSD. I know i'm rambling but i'm not sure if i'm wording it in a way that makes sense.
I think that this one is strictly Menopausal. I get the bloated crap around the time that I would have at that "wonderful time of the month." Sometimes I get a little emotional too. But I think it's menopausal, and NOT related to PTSD. But that's just my opinion. Hang in there this to shall pass. Although I still have hot flashes...................
Awwwwwwwwwww, man!! The "other" stuff has been so bad all my life that I have soooooo looked forward to menopause. You have just burst my bubble about it!!! Which is worse though???
Lost --- i agree with Sid that was great.I also lived for meno. mother and sister both had hysterechtomys (my spelling stinks) and I used to ask the dr. what he had against me that he wouldn't give me one. I am sooooooo happy to be rid of "it" but have to say the years of perimenopause were not at all easy and the first two years of meno I thought i would lose my mind with the constant sweating day and night. covers on , cover off. Sid I have been lucky to have gotten rid of all that but my belly is now alot lower than it used to be and so are other body parts I thought this was possible to have PMS symptoms and that's all it was since it's the exact time of the month. I guess this will go on forever.
FTM----I invited you. if you have education on meno which I am sure you do please add to the mix. I wasn't sure if the mood swings were from that or my emotional disorders. it's so hard to tell sometimes. Nothing is wrong and when I thought of the date that's when it hit. me. Just more complications. after all between you, Sid and myself you are the only one getting pregnant.
Lost------ my sister was like that. suffered each time. cramps to the point where she would miss 2 days of school or work a month. I was lucky . never had a problem until I got whacky through peri-menopause. Everyone is different. I feel if you need something to stabilize your mood especially if it's hormone related and there is a real possibility that your hormones are making matters worse the Gyn is the guy for the job. I'm not an avid believer in HRT but if it's needed then it's needed. I figure why suffer anymore than you have to when there's help out there. ok i'll let the menopause go for now since it's depressing you. Some day all the crap you go through will be over.
Love you , keep safe and I will pray that ther eare no power outages. I must live in the dark as I didn't even know there was a storm out there.
First hot flash was at 41....I am 53 now. Not as many, but they are still with me. The mood swings, night sweats, hot flashes, irritability, bed periods, no periods, light ones, AWFUL one, cramps, migraines, headaches, swelling, you name it.... I HAD IT.......
Like I said I would rather DIE from PTSD than ever LIVE for MENOPAUSE......
I have long dreaded menopause. I'm getting closer. Oh, boy.
I have Bipolar I, PTSD and a bit of other crap. I've been aware of the effects of the curse after the 'curse' for a long time. For now, I have 2 weeks of mad PMS, a long, painful period, and one week of 'normal' me.
I'm a moody, crazybox already. Though my childbearing years are not pleasant, I dread menopause even more. What will the world do with me when my hormones start exploding into wild action?! There's no medication to heal what will ail me.
Man, I hope it will at least hold off until I get a few issues under control.
I feel for you ICC and Sid. I truly do. You are genuine troopers. Hot flashes - ugh! I won't be the first and not the last.
With all there is to contend with, it's wierd that many women still tend to live a bit longer than men.
icc -Did you read my mind? Seriously, over the last couple of days, I debated posting here about the same thing. Funny, it was suggested by family that I was going through the change when I was 1st depressed, (family couldn't possibly think it was due to me having mental problems)! I am waiting for the end of periods and can't wait to be free of all that stuff. Anyway, I'd like to make a point. It was at the same time that my periods disappeared (for a few months) that this new anxiety problem occured. I was wondering if it was just a coincidence? I've never needed anxiolytics on top of the AD's. And since a period, my mood has lifted too. PS - all has headed south with me too. You are not alone.
good morning ladies and FTM------- red , you are too funny "the curse after the curse" i love it and it gave me a good laugh. I know you said you are around 35, am I right?
isitme----Yes that's what I went through for years even with dr.s. it wasn't the PTSD or anxiety it was MENOPAUSE as far as they were concerned. 2 years after going through it the effects are still there as i'm sure sid will agreee and who knows if they ever go away. But have diminished immensely except for the 2-3 days around the time i would have gooten one. how old are you?
I ask your ages because my oldest is 34 and from what she is describing to me I belive she in in the early stages of peri-menopause. Hot flashes have started, 2 weeks of every month she wants to kill eveyone who comes near her, a bad period and then one week of feeling like herself. she also has what she calls "brain fog" that makes her crazy. allergies????sinuses????? she's been told hormones have something to do with it so that also is worse 3 weeks out of the month.I never suffered from depression until a couple of years before period ended and the anxiety and insomnia got 10 times worse.
Just one more thing women have to deal with. Sorry FTM but we got childbirth and meno.
icc - I'm 43. My periods have been eratic, lighter for 6 months or so. Hot flushes, but nothing unbearable. The menopause is yet another avenue to look down. Given my other problems, it's hard to distinguish which symptom belongs to which problem. As regards your daughter. I know my mum went through the change at 30. The Dr said she was probably pregnant given her age, but she never did have that baby!!!!!!
Looking back I see a lot of stuff. First of all I started seeing my GREAT therapist at age 41... The same age as my first hot flash. This was also the time that my ptsd was at it's worst. I mean BAD TIME. This is when EVERYTHING came into a full blown PTSD FLARE UP!!!!! I had always had the "Acting out behavior" as I so call it. eating disorders, drinking, doing things I knew were wrong, anxiety bad, panic even worse, at times not even able to make a simple decision, or changing my mind a thousand times, using sex as a weapon, or to feel bad about myself, or just because I didn't care. or because I confused it with love. (Ok I am giving out way too much info here)
My point is I'm not sure now if it was menopause, or PTSD..
ICC I stated in earlier post that I thought it was just menopause, but I am NOT sure know that I am looking back at me. I really don't know which it was Meno, or PTSD???????
Will have to re think this....Could be the chicken or the egg thing????
Hi all----I have to agree it's very confusing. I am coming to the conclusion that meno is one the the things that flares PTSD off. Same here Sid meno and the worst of my PTSD all at the same time. had the PTSD and GAD symptoms blown off for years since the dr.s believed it was just hormonal. we know that not to be but i do believe there is a link to hormones or should i say lack of that aggravated any emotional disorder.