An FSH taken on day 3 of your cycle should be under 10 to still have viable eggs. Anything over 10 indicates a diminishing egg reserve. Typically, an FSH of over 46 indicates definite menopause.
Your tests were done on day 20 which is during the luteal phase but they appear to be the results of a normal, non-perimenopausal woman for that time of month. They range within the norm for each test that was done.
An FSH of 61 is considered on the high end and is an indicator that you're in the menopausal years. Usually, if your FSH is higher than 48 and you have not had a period in a years time, you would be considered to have completed menopause. The problem with FSH numbers is that they can change from month to month. You can have an FSH of 64 one month and then the next month, a simple change in diet, exercise and ovulation of a rare remaining egg can drop your FSH down to 25. It's such a crap shoot. Even your doctor will likely tell you that the numbers indicate a menopausal state but that that it is not a guarantee that you are completely through menopause.
Also, hot flashes vary from person to person. Some women continue to have hot flashes for a couple of years after menopause occurs simply due to the fluctuations between progesterone and estrogen levels. Other women have all their hot flashes during the peri-menopausal years. You can have seriously bad hot flashes for a couple of months and then as estrogen levels to a normal ratio with progesterone, those hot flashes can ease for a few months until estrogen and progesterone become inbalanced again due to another fluctuation.
I swear, there is nothing more complicated than the female body. Men are a piece of cake in comparison.