Hi, I'm new to this forum, I have been in HealthBoards but never knew that you guys have a menopause forum.
I'm 46 years old and I have been going through menopause for about 5 years now. I had a partial hysterectomy about 5 years ago, my doctor didn't take all my organs because he was aftraid that he would throw me into menopause. Well, surprise, I went right into menopause anyway, so I'll be battling this for years. It was easy at first, I just had the night sweats, and that's it, but for the last year I've been totally into the menopause thing. I don't get night sweats, I get all day-sweats, and believe me it hard when you talking to someone and all of a sudden you burst into pouring sweat and can't stop it, so I walk around the house naked. I have a 17 year old daughter so she feels so sorry for me. How do any of you ladies stop the all-day sweats??
My attitude is getting pretty much out of control. Some days are good, but some of terrible. When it comes to sex, that is anicent history, haven't felt like that for the whole 5 years, thank God I don't have a boyfriend!! But this is the kicker--- now I'm getting very depressed, so depressed that I cry all day long. My poor daughter, she tries to help so much but there's not much that she can do, but she sits with me while I'm crying. Everything that goes on during the day, I cry! Some days I can't get out the bed.
I went to my doctor, but most of them don't want to give me Hormonal therapy at all, they say that they are no good. So I have been drinking some teas for menopause, that's not much help either, What can I do?? The good thing about it is that when my menopause hits me it will last for a couple of months and then leave for a couple of months, so I don't know when I will turn into a tiger and when I don't. I was told that menopause lasts about 10 years, but now I'm told that this will last for the rest of my life, what's the truth. HELP!
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I feel right there with you. I'm 45 and have been off track for the last two years. Panic attacks were the first thing to get me. Now, I've noticed that I wake up at night..not with terrible night sweats..but I have to yank off some clothes. My bladder is all over the place and I'm always not too far from a bathroom. I am so depressed and cry all the time. I wake up in the morning with no energy for the day nor do I seem to care about much. I'm struggling with the feeling that this will never go away. I feel like I'm pushing people away because I don't know how to handle my emotions. It's just easier to isolate and be alone..but that is causing prolems to. What I find that does help is exercise and eating as healthy as I can. I'm trying to do that every single day and TRYING to find some humor in this god-awful state. Some days are OK..some are just unbearable. I'm sad because I thought this was supposed to be a good time in our lives. I have grown children now and find myself as being useless. I'm not sure what to do with myself now.
Start moving and eating well....that could help. And pamper yourself. Do things YOU want to do..don't do housework..read a book or watch something on TV. The housework can wait a minute or two. Just start enjoying the good moments you have..and try not to focus on all the bad..I know that's hard to do right now. But it may help.
Wow, reading these 2 posts I would have thought I wrote them. I am 45 and had a hysterectomy 10 years ago, they left my ovaries but from what I have read within a couple years from a major surgery they quit working anyways. So I have been dealing with this for about 8 years. I was taking a hrt for over 2 years and it really helps but didn't like the thought of what it might be doing to me for later so weaned off it a few months back. I am now using s good progesterone cream and it has helped with my hot flashes and night sweats. Doesn't remove them totally but makes it do able. I wasn't really thinking I was depressed until I read these today and thought "yes that is what it is" I knew I have been down and no energy and don't want to go out and do anything. And talk about being tired, never thought it would be like this. I have tried a few different ad's in the past and nothing agrees with me so going to try natural, I do take fish, flax, and borage pills everyday and they help some with the anxiety and panic attacks. Thank you ladies for helping me remember "I am not alone." I hope you start feeling better soon.
Julie
I feel right there with you. I'm 45 and have been off track for the last two years. Panic attacks were the first thing to get me. Now, I've noticed that I wake up at night..not with terrible night sweats..but I have to yank off some clothes. My bladder is all over the place and I'm always not too far from a bathroom. I am so depressed and cry all the time. I wake up in the morning with no energy for the day nor do I seem to care about much. I'm struggling with the feeling that this will never go away. I feel like I'm pushing people away because I don't know how to handle my emotions. It's just easier to isolate and be alone..but that is causing prolems to. What I find that does help is exercise and eating as healthy as I can. I'm trying to do that every single day and TRYING to find some humor in this god-awful state. Some days are OK..some are just unbearable. I'm sad because I thought this was supposed to be a good time in our lives. I have grown children now and find myself as being useless. I'm not sure what to do with myself now.
Start moving and eating well....that could help. And pamper yourself. Do things YOU want to do..don't do housework..read a book or watch something on TV. The housework can wait a minute or two. Just start enjoying the good moments you have..and try not to focus on all the bad..I know that's hard to do right now. But it may help.
It's pretty strange because as much as I'm on the internet, I never thought for a minute about finding some sites on menopause and chatting with other women who are going through the same issues, you kinda feel that you're the only one going through it. At first about 3 years ago, I use to only get a little swears during the day and I would just pull off my shirt or something, and that was it for about the next 2 years, but this year is the worst. It was a nice spring day, about 80 degrees, I stopped to talk to a male friend of mine. While we were talking all of a sudden swear start of develop, I tried to hide it, but then the swear was actually pouring off my face, I was too through. He asked what was wrong, and I said, "I'M GOING THROUGH MENOPAUSE, DUH!! But you will wake up in the middle of the night, change your sheets, cover and take a bath, I guess that's normal, but I hate it.
Depression is the major system of menopause that woman have, besides the terrible sweating. I even had to let my doctor know that I was a little too depressed, not doing things as to what I used to do, just like you. He understood very well, and gave me something to calm my nerves, so some days I do feel a little better, but I only take them when I'm very depressed. But some women don't want to ask their doctor for something, because their ashamed of the depression. But I would rather deal with getting through it with as much help as I can. And when you deal with the pressure that it will never go away, i think that you're rignt. Some women say they go through it for at least 10 years, and I have talked to older women who are in their 60's, and they say that it never ends.
I was thinking about trying to go back to doing my exercises just the other day, so I think I will, if it works. And you're correct, some months are good and some months I don't know how to get out of it, it's rough. But I'm going to take your advice, who knows, it make help me out a lot. Hey, keep in touch. One! (dede)
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Wow, reading these 2 posts I would have thought I wrote them. I am 45 and had a hysterectomy 10 years ago, they left my ovaries but from what I have read within a couple years from a major surgery they quit working anyways. So I have been dealing with this for about 8 years. I was taking a hrt for over 2 years and it really helps but didn't like the thought of what it might be doing to me for later so weaned off it a few months back. I am now using s good progesterone cream and it has helped with my hot flashes and night sweats. Doesn't remove them totally but makes it do able. I wasn't really thinking I was depressed until I read these today and thought "yes that is what it is" I knew I have been down and no energy and don't want to go out and do anything. And talk about being tired, never thought it would be like this. I have tried a few different ad's in the past and nothing agrees with me so going to try natural, I do take fish, flax, and borage pills everyday and they help some with the anxiety and panic attacks. Thank you ladies for helping me remember "I am not alone." I hope you start feeling better soon.
Julie
Hi there, so you're joining the club too, that's great. My story seems a lot like yours. I have a partial hysterectomy about 3-4 years ago. I was having a lot of problems with bleeding, my period was always on, off one week, on 2. My doctor finally asked me if I wanted to do the surgery, well I had been to 4 other doctors and they couldn't figure out what was wrong, so after beening in so much pain day-in-and day-out, and all the bleeding I decided to have the surgery. My doctor said that he would do a partial because if I had everything out it would throw me into full menopause. Well, I proved him wrong, he did a partial, leaving the tubes and ovaries, but afterward I still went into full menopause and been suffering every since. My doctor refuses to give me HRT, the reason I don't know, so I just suffer. I have tried some of the herbal hormonal teas, but they don't really work too well.
And yes, I learned that depression is a major sympton of menopause, it's bad, I had to get medication to help calm me down, and it does work. I have no get-up-and-go anymore, just like you, some days I have to drag myself out of the bed, and that's after laying there for about 4 hours. But listen, tell me more about the flax oil and other herbs of supplements that you have tried, they may work out for me. One! (dede)
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