We did not make the grade
Hello again all,
Well after numerous bouts, discussions, relentless mood swings and my wifes "I need to reinvent myself" battles we succumbed to seperation. I could no longer battle this. I had become miserable. I really did put a huge effort to understand but this took it's toll.
I started another post some back where I came on here trying to understand menopause, the basis, the potential dangers, the mood swings, the personalty changes and so on. I was criticized by her trying to understand what was in front of us. Our intimacy went away, she started making huge family decisions without me, then embarked on a marathon running career(she had never ran nor spoke of running as an interest in 19 years) this included thousands of dollars of gear. endless training, then flying all over to run. I simply could not get into it with her. I supported by watching our daughters while she went on 3 and 4 day trips from NYC to California to Hawaii. Then came the job quitting to go back to school and the mood swings were relentless. I decided that I was not going to be the guy who retreats to the garage to avoid this to end up being the bickersons. She is a very strong over achieving type women and I stood no chance trying to communicate on a topic.
Long story short, I went on a business trip for 4 weeks 5 months ago where I was managing a product transfer. I realized nearing the end of the trip and sitting in the hotel room I simply was no longer in love with her. The flame went out.
I wanted to thank all who gave me good advice and sent me links on the menopause life and side effects.