I am 48 years old, married with 2 beautiful daughters. I am new to the boards, although I have been lurking on and off.
Well, where do I begin? Seriously, I fear when I start, which would be now in peri, by the time I finished, I would be in post!!!
Anyway...for about 3 and half years I have been perimeno. I have gone through many symptoms, hot flashes, basically gone now and only lasted a short time, night sweats, haven't had those in long time, mood swings, I have had these since invetro, palpations which my doctor perscribed propranolol for and was mostly for anxiety since they found nothing wrong with my heart, echo, ekg..., irregular periods. The later is the subject I need some perspective on.
At the beginning of my "hormonal defection", my periods were closer together for a while, but normal. Then they started to get further and further apart. The "flow" ranged from very, very light to low to medium to spotting to some clotting to all of the above. The duration lasted anywhere from 2 to 10 days. In 09, I started on Christmas day after 8 MONTHS of no menses, 4 months shy of the 12 month cut off. I had a very "Arrrg" moment.
From that December period, I have had a few moments of feeling like I was going to start, tender breast, leg aches etc. but nothing happened. Until May 24th, one day shy of 6 months from last start date and the half way mark!!! This one is different on two point, the duration and a little more clotting. I started, as stated above, but the first 5-6 days it was very light, and I thought after no period for 6 months there would be more than this?" It's been more then spotting but not even enough to ware a jr tampon. Then bam, 3 days of normal flow for me but more clotting, nothing bigger than a quarter but more of them. Then back to enough to ware a pad but not a jr. tampon, and I haven't stopped yet. This is my 17th day.
Everything I have read online about prolonged periods suggests seeing your dr., which I will next month for my annual exam, but all the text I have read isn't exactly what I was looking for. They pertain to very heavy flowing for several days and even WEEKS and being extremely tired because of the flowing. That is not what this is like. I am not tired or worn out, in fact I seem to have more energy now than before I started. This is like a normal period for me just longer in duration and a little more clotting.
I should mention I was diagnosed with endometriosis, about 20 years ago but haven't been symptomatic since my 17 year old daughter was born in 93.
Any suggestions or insights, I will greatly appreciate.
May God bless,
Last edited by Fayan; 07-11-2010 at 09:25 AM.
Reason: I started as stated above, but...should just be...The first
Hi Fayan, glad you're here! Fluctuating hormones is what peri-meno is all about, to which is also the cause for irregualar periods. It seems your body isn't done with the peri phase yet, as it sounds.
It's very common actually. I find it sad though, when a woman gets so close to being post-meno, and then has another period (like you did)! That would definitely be an "arrgh" moment, lol. Longest I've lasted is 2 months. I'm on my second month of missing now again (crossing fingers and toes, lol).
However if your bleeding isn't excessive and no light-headedness or other symtpoms, I'm sure you'll be okay. The clotting is normal as well, not being anything serious. But if the bleeding goes on for over 30 days, then I"d suggest that you do see your doctor! Good luck & God bless, ~Karen
Oh - my - God, this is exactly what I am going through...every single word you've written is what's going on with me including the bit about the first 3-4 days being light and then a flow but nothing much, a few clots, and then spotting which is just carrying on. I had a period in May 09, then nothing till Jan 10 then a light period, then nothing till June 10 and then a period, extremely light lasting only 5 days. Then another one after 15 days, light again but heavier than the last one and then again after 20 days, light the first 4 days,then a flow and today is day 12 and I am still spotting. I hate doctors and get really anxious. I went to him today and he said to watch for another 10 days before he sends me to a gynaec. I am feeling completely overwhelmed and have just taken a Xanax.
Hi lovecanada, glad you posted!
I can relate with you too! For myself, this pink discharge came, when my Coumadin's (an anti-blood clotting med) INR level became too high, making my blood dangerously thin. It eventually turned into a very light period (which I'm now experiencing; is more like spotting). I had missed 2 months periods prior to this. Was hoping it'd be over, but now back to square one, lol. Plus it was a week early.
I guess I just wanted to say to you that you're not alone, and I hope you do see a gyno. Better yet, an endocrinologist deals specifically with hormones, so if you get no answers from the gyno, get a referral to that kind of doctor. Insist on it. Unfortunately for us meno women, irregularity is part of the package. BUT there are things for relief, and an endo is you best bet. In fact, if I don't/didn't stop bleeding here, I'm getting a referral to one! Anyway, take care & God bless, ~Karen
I'm sorry to hear about what you are going through. I have stopped spotting but not until 28 days from the start of the actual period on June 24th. It just kept getting lighter and lighter until it stopped.
I have had so much anxiety over this that I called my gyno and told her I couldn't wait until my August 12th appt. She said this is very common and she sees, more often than not, that this is hormonal.
I lost my health insurance and am currently enrolled in a free clinic that pays for yearly paps, breast exams and mamo's. I have to contact them to find out if I qualify for some assistance with the ultra sound I have scheduled for the 30th.
Anxiety can really reek havoc on a person. My comfort is prayer and it's working for me.
I want to thank you for your response and apologize for not responding sooner. Honestly, I have been having a problem posting on the boards, and I know it's me, not the boards!
I have had so much anxiety over this that I called my gyno and told her I needed to see her before my physical Aug 12th. She told me she believes this is hormonal but since anxiety never helps these situations, she would do an ultra sound on the 30th.
I lost my insurance last year and am enrolled in a woman's clinic that, if you meet income requirements, pays for yearly paps, breast exams and mamos, which last year were all normal.
I have to contact them to see if I can get assistance for this upcoming ultra sound because out of the 4 my gyno does in her office, the trans vaginal is just over four hundred dollars. I think that is the one I should get because I think it is the most accurate of all the other ultra sounds. Not sure though. I'll discuss this with her Friday.
My anxiety level has dropped considerably since I prayed for peace of mind, after reaching the bottom of my anxiety barrel. I told myself, it is what it is and I will have to deal with whatever is coming. I know, easy to say, right? Prayer is working for me, and I am sure Friday morning I will be saying a lot of Our Father's to get me through.
Well time to pack for a trip to Bangor tomorrow to look for a dress for my niece's wedding in September. I sure do hope I can fit "gently" into a size 8.
Thank you again,
Last edited by mod-anon; 07-25-2010 at 10:43 PM.
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Oh, Karen, I should have told you, I have stopped spotting. 28 days to the day of the onset of this cycle. The spotting just kept getting lighter and lighter until it stopped completely. I used a lot of my daughters' pantie liners!!! I don't think this has any relevance to my problem but, 28 days is a normal menses cycle for me, or was prior to peri!
Hi Fayan and Karen - Thank you so much for the reassuring mail. Believe me it made me feel so much better. I have been to every doctor possible including an endocrinologist and had ultrasounds, the trans vaginal one too. The year before last was sheer hell for me as I had periods which were longer, came every 15 - 20 days and the doctors kept saying the endometrial lining was thick because of estrogen dominance. Anyway in April last year I found this doctor, who specialises in hormones and he was fantastic. He put me on bioidentical progesterone and within 2 months I felt better. I had a huge period in May and then June and then nothing till January 2010, which was a very light period lasting 5 days and then nothing again till June this year and now this. He keeps reassuring me that this is normal but I am so sick and tired and completely fed up. Every time I go to the washroom I literally hold my breath to see if there's any discharge. Yesterday, day 13, was all clear so I'm hoping this is the end of it.
Fayan, this board has been a God send and I am so grateful to all you wonderful people for helping me get through the days of agonising.
We are in the same boat where the panty liners are concerned I get my stock from COSTCO because I literally need a wholesale quantity!!!!
Last edited by lovecanada; 07-25-2010 at 08:49 AM.
...We are in the same boat where the panty liners are concerned I get my stock from COSTCO because I literally need a wholesale quantity!!!!
Lol lovecanada, that's funny! It's funny because I can relate to that. Is like my eye is always on the pantyliners to see if I need to buy more, lol! And by what you've posted, I feel you've really had a roller coaster ride going through peri (as is Fayan & many of us). But I'm SO glad that this doctor gave you some progesterone cream that helps! I've heard it does help many of us women suffering through this change.
And to Fayan, I'm very glad you're bleeding stopped! Whew, what a relief huh?! Actually the spotting I had stopped after only 3 days too. It only occured when my INR (blood/coumadin level's) were out of whack. Interesting. Oh and Fayan, was wondering where you live? If in the U.S. and you're low income, you CAN qualify for medical assistance through your state. And it IS perfectly okay to ask for help.
Another option is a clinic that works on a sliding scale. Nevertheless, I sure hope you get help paying for your upcoming visit/test(s). I do know how this could cause anxiety due to financial burden. In addition, I just wanted to point out that it's very common for peri-meno women to all of sudden start having health anxiety. Not to say you don't have legitimate concerns, it's just something to consider as well.
Our bodies are changing, our moods and mind... so it can lie to us! LOL. Like every new pain that pops up, all of sudden we think we have some serious disease &/or are dying, lol. I'm laughing about it, because I've experienced it too! But I've realized it's perfectly natural for my body to not feel like it's twenty again, for example, because it's not! LOL.
Anyway, keep posting! You help me as much as I hopefully help you! Take care both (all) of you and God bless, ~Karen aka Kaz
Hi Karen, Fayan - This is just an update for my fellow peri menopausers - it's day 15 of my cycle, had no spotting on day 13 but sure did start on day 14.5 ( have started counting minutes & seconds ). Now I feel I am going to start the mid-cycle period....will it ever end? I am supposed to be going for a 4-week holiday with my family where we will be travelling to 3-4 countries and instead of looking for places of interest to visit - I am wondering if there will be washrooms around!!!!Two months ago I was looking forward to this trip now I don't even feeling like going!
I am getting so resentful these days and wondering what the hell did we do to deserve this....I wish my husband could go through 1 day of this torture. Mind you it's not just irregular periods, it's the tachycardia ( SVTs to be more precise), migraines, mood swings ( I'm a monster on certain days and my husband cannot believe that his gentle and calm wife can change so dramatically - he says it's like walking on egg shells around me). Thank you all you wonderful ladies for allowing me to vent - I feel so much better now!
Lovecanada, I've often felt the same as you are! I'll snap at my son without thinking, then have to apologize lol. Grrr. Have you explained to your hubby that this is part of the meno package? It helped my relationship with my son greatly to tell him that this IS a part of it, unfortunately. After talking to him about meno, he now seems much more understanding & accepting of it all.
Your vacation sounds wonderful too by the way! But I'd want wash rooms near me too! I'm sure you're taking pads or whatever, as much as you can. At least you'll be ready for it! Better yet, I pray it stops for you altogether, so that you can enjoy your long-planned vacation! Try to put this meno crap out of your mind and enjoy your family and experience! Luv, ~Kaz
Hi Kaz - I did more than explain to my husband & son, I went to the library and picked up a whole lot of books on Menopause and marked the pages etc. My son and husband are very understanding most of the time but sometimes they find it a little difficult.
Well, I had a talk with my doctor and he said this is part of the deal and I shouldn't freak out. He was expecting this to happen especially when you haven't had a period for so long, sometimes there is a lining buildup and it takes 2-3 cycles to shed especially if the periods are not heavy. So I'm just going wait and watch and see the gynecologist in a month anyway.
Will keep you posted. I hope this will the last of the dreaded thing for us ladies!
I am freaking out now....day 15 and the spotting has turned into a full blown period ! The doctor says it's a mid cycle period and I did have the painful breasts, feeling bloated etc. Anyone else had a period last over 20 days? This is a first for me & I am getting really anxious.
Sorry to hear this period is going on so long, ugh. It only happened to me when younger, but I have read on this forum of peri-meno women experiencing the same prolonged bleeding such as yourself. When my bleeding wouldn't stop some years ago, the doctor did a chemical D&C, shedding the uterus lining to make it stop altogether. I just pray it ends soon for you, as I can understand why you're anxious about it. When are you leaving on your trip? Hope it stops or eases up by then! Think positive & breatheee! Luv, ~Kaz
Last edited by lKaz; 07-28-2010 at 05:30 AM.
Thanks Kaz...this is the very first time for me. The longest one I've had was 12 days. The last two periods were very light so this is a regular one. I leave on the 21st. I hope this is the last period and I don't have to go for a D&C. What has been the longest for you?
This really sucks because I had nothing for 5 months.
Truly appreciate your soothing words...works wonders for my morale!
Last edited by lovecanada; 07-28-2010 at 09:09 PM.
When I had the prolonged period, it lasted over 30 days! But again, I was young and not in menopause then. It was due to hormonal imbalance. They tried to give me BC but I refused, as it had always made me very ill for some reason. After this, my own body just seemed to adjust itself back to normal.
As far as you, I'd wait as long as possible. It's got to stop some time! Prayfully sooner than later! But like I said, if you go 30 days, it is wise to see the doctor. I can imagine your frustration too. I hate having a period on a regular cycle, let alone for a longer period, ugh lol!
Sounds like your more relaxed about it all. That's SO good! More positively, maybe this is the end for you? Let's hope. Once out of peri and into full meno (when periods stop) is nice, however, some other symptoms do still occur unfortunately. But remember, think positive and this too shall pass! Do what we need to do & one day at a time. Luv, ~Kaz
I am reading all about the irregular periods.I had some of the same stuff also. i am 52 and last september I had a period then i did not get one again until March. In March i had two periods and i have not had one since. Before last september, i was not as refualr as i used to be and i had very heavy periods and clotting and long lasting periods. i too was very nervous and ran to my gyno once when the period did not stop after two weeks. he did the ultrasound and nothing was wrong. i was a nervous wreck. i thought i had some kind of cancer. I also had bleeding almost everytime i had sex. That made me really nervous. anyway, it turned out to all be related to peri-menopause. Now i get hot flashes and nausea and digestive problems that I have a feeling are related. I also cry more then usual. Does anybody get any of these symptoms? I also feel bloated more then usual. Also suddenly my libido is not as strong as it was. This really stinks and we also don't have any clue how long this is going to last. But, we are definitely not alone. Good luck everybody on this great journey. LaLa
Hi Kaz - I went to the doctor yesterday and like you he said the exact same thing that this is normal during peri. He said he has had many patients going through the exact same thing. He said I should get an ultrasound done more for my peace of mind if the period carries on for a month but according to him it should stop soon as it has a very cyclic pattern . He's increased my dose of bioidentical progesterone though.
Thanks for helping me cope with this situation!
Last edited by lovecanada; 07-31-2010 at 07:51 AM.
Oh you're more than welcome lovecanada! It helps me to share & get feedback as much as it does you! Glad you went to doctor though, it does give peace of mind. That means a lot during this time, because of meno's nature (anxiety, mood swings, etc). And good luck with the ultrasound! Let us know how it goes if you will.
Thank you for posting too lala52. Since you haven't had a period since March, and if you don't have one until next March 2011, then you're in full blown menopause (as I'm sure you know). This is good just for the fact of no more periods! BUT, I do empathize with you that you're still having symptoms, because I do too! I hadn't had a period for 2 months, then on the 3rd month only pink spots. But my med Coumadin was so high, that it causes bleeding actually, ugh lol. So I'm not sure if it was meno or the med INR level. Time will tell I guess....
St. John's Wort is a natural mood stablizer, plus I take 12-HR Pepcid for my digestive prob's (+ Multi-Enzymes with Probiotics). There's also an option to go on anti-anxiety med's if you're really bad & so inclined. Paxil has helped my libido too (but have no partner, just feel it lol). There's also Viagra for women available now. Just trying to throw some things out there for you to consider. I hope you can find relief lala.
Anway, hang in there ladies! Is good to know we're not alone! Helps me a lot, because some days are better than others, lol! Luv, ~Kaz