Hmm...
I think it is totally disrespectful of him to visit the porn sites. Have you told him how you feel and he still does it?
It would be a different matter if you didn't care and he has some kind of impotence problem. Then I could understand needing the "stimulation". Personally I would be very hurt and offended if my husband did that.
OTOH: My sister-in-law and I were best friends (she is dead now) She used to tell me things about her marriage. I tried not to think of it as "my brother" but as "her husband"
Anyway, her husband had tons of the girly magazines. They didn't have a computer, but if they had - he would have been on the porn sites. He bought the dirty movies and would watch them all the time. Sometimes she would watch them too. She used to joke about it, but I know she was hurt. She was a very large woman (over 400 pounds) and her husband (around the same size) apparently sometimes needed the "stimulation" from the porn to aid in their bedroom activities. Men tend to be visually stimulated first and emotionally stimulated second, where as women generally are the opposite.
My sis-in-law felt bad about herself and I'm sure it broke her heart -- but she was so thankful to have a man who loved her so much and who she loved. They were both very large people and my brother never cheated on her. I still think it was disrespectful.
Anyway--- I think you need to make it clear to your husband that this bothers you and if he can't or won't quit, then get some counseling.
[This message has been edited by YadaYada (edited 07-02-2002).]
What do you think? 
to get bashed about this along with you!! 
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