okay, the deal is that for a while I have been having pain in my testicles, but it was only for a day or two every two or three months. But recently the pain has been getting more intense and more frequent lately. My testicles themselves are sore to the touch with the pain and specifically the epididymus (spermatic cord). After a warm shower and the skin relaxes just by looking at my scrotum it looks like a bag of worms (that is the best description I could think of) its not that big, or swollen like a hernia, but my left testicle does not visibly look like my right testicle. The akward appearace has been there for a while and since it hasn't gotten bigger I ignored it until recently when the pain was getting intense. I have also been having extreme fatigue and major migraines that come when the extreme pain comes. I am 17 years old and I will have to admit I am embarrased about asking my parents to see the Urologist, i've tried leaving subtle hints like bookmarking the insurace website for urologists in my city or even bookmarking articles about various testicular problems. I don't know what it could be, I don't want to be a hypochondriac and self-diagnose myself. Is there an easy, simple, and stress-free way to confront my parents about my testicular pain?
I've dealt with something VERY like that. Definately go see the doc. I know this stuff can be really embarrassing and all, and parents like to pry. Here's maybe a good way to handle this:
-Tell your folks about the problem in a calm, but earnest way (or maybe just dad to start with - make sure no brothers or sisters around) - and use technical terms - don't say "balls" Try to get to a family practictioner doc first, as they can USUALLY handle something like this or give you a referral to a specialist. Hopefully the dialogue will go something like this:
Find quiet time after dinner or when dad leaves room for a sec, to have a father-son "chat" with him.
You: "Dad. (give him a serious look) I think I need to see a doctor, and sooner rather than later."
Dad: "What's wrong, son?"
You: (sitting down near him and talking quietly, and seriously) "Well, dad, it's kind of embarrassing... but for a while (specify approx amount of time) I've this problem with testicular pain and swelling. I didn't want to say anything about it, and I really didn't want to deal with this, hoping it'd go away on it's own, but lately it's becoming worse - pretty bad, really. The pain is rather acute right now, and there seems to be some fairly significant swelling on the left side. I really think that seeing a doctor today or tomorrow, latest, would be a good idea, as this is just getting intolerable."
Dad: "You should have told me sooner!"
You: "Well, dad, as I said, I'm was wishing this'd just go away...."
Dad: (nodding) "Yeah, OK. Are you OK with (insert name of family doc)?
You: "Sure, dad. Thanks for understanding. Could you not tell anybody about this, at least for a while? The pain is bad enough without all the unneeded attention, you know. Let's just handle all this quietly and calmly."
Dad: "OK, son, I'll give the doc a call first thing in the morning - I'll make sure he can squeeze you in.... but if things get worse suddenly, don't hesitate to wake me up anytime of the night - and we'll go off to the emergency room if you need to. Don't worry, I'll keep this as much as I can between you and me, and we'll deal with it as soon as possible."
You: "Thanks, Dad. Yeah, I just want this over without any fuss."
-- If your parents ask something out of line like: "Have you been doing anything strange that might have caused this?" Just say: "No. Nothing out of the ordinary - all I know is that I'm in real pain and let's get that cleared up."
Best of luck - believe me, I CAN relate - I went through just about the same thing. Good thing my parents were alright about this, but yeah, it was kinda tough to talk to them about it, but 90% of the embarrassment was over in 30 seconds, after I got it blurted out.
The thing about this type of deal is the sooner you get something done the better. And I mean that whole-heartedly. Having something not feel right down there can be a very unpleasant and scarry, not to mention a severe risk for your health and wellbeing. I believe most of the time you need a referal from a doctor to get into a Urologist. At least that is the way it is around here. I would suggest talking to your parents about it, as stressfull as that may seem, because they can help you take the proper steps in order to fix whatever is wrong.
Last year I was scarred I might have testicular cancer after a lump seemed to appear all of a sudden. Forunately for me, the Urologist said it was just a cyst but that I also had a hurnea. The hurnea was there since I was 6 years old and I thought it was very obvious it was a hurnea, however painless, the doctors never seemed to think so untill I went to the Urologist at age 19. I got both fixed at the same time and 4 days later I was feeling awesome mentally and physically. I'm still ****** it took the doctors 13 years to figure that one out. I probably had at least 7 sports physicals in that time period too.
Good luck, hopefully there isn't a serious problem. Remember, the sooner it's fixed the better.
Yes that was very well said Tanner. And like Gamehunter says the sooner you get it looked at the easier it will probably be to treat. It could be any number of things, and I hope you let us know what happens.
Thanks Tanner and everybody else, I can see the urgency in this, but its just never a good time to bring these sort of things up with my parents, plus last time I had a health problem (the acne meds I was taking evidently has a bad side-affect on my kidneys) they told me to just drink cranberry juice and it'll go away; I don't want that kinda answer again; but I'll try to approach them in the next couple days