Low T; Who have you told - Men's Health Message Board

Jinxy285 · 06-14-2007, 05:57 PM

I was curious for men on this board that suffer from Low T. Who knows about it besides you and the Dr's you have seen??? The only person I have told is my Wife.... I am curious if this is a good or bad thing? There is a stigma in our society about testosterone making you masculine or not... so I think that impedes men from talking freely about this and probably alot of women. Women IMO would not want to tell their friends that their husband cannot produce T as it would make him appear less of a man.... what do you think. Also do you think the opinion I shared, if you agree, is helping or hurting the progress of advances in medicine in this area....

thx...

hayfarmer · 06-14-2007, 07:38 PM

I agree there is probably a stigma attached to it. In my case my wife knows everything and my parents know I have a pituitary disorder which is the truth but does not tell them it causes me to have low T. There is really no one else I would tell anyway except possibly my children when they are grown if I thought it is something they need to know in case they could get it too.

I do not routinely discuss my medical situation with any other people anyway.

I don't know why much of the medical profession is so stupid about this. My guess is that this is a recent phenomena as to how many men now have this. In the past the medical community has been more responsive to male health problems than female and there have been complaints about that. It is also possible many men who have suffered with this in the past have kept it to themselves, too embarrased or proud to talk to a doctor about it.

zak · 06-14-2007, 07:46 PM

there was a big stigma about impotence but then viagra and senator bob dole came along. as the huge population of baby boomers ages low T will become better known and discussed.

anyman · 06-14-2007, 07:59 PM

My logical side says "it's a pituitary disorder and not my fault", but my male side is humiliated and angry at the universe for inflicting such an emasculating fate on me. I'm too damned ashamed to tell anyone but my wife, who has been tremendously supportive. I keep asking myself why couldn't I get a normal affliction. I exercise, eat well and take care of myself, yet here I am just past 40 and walking around with a 200 T level. The worst part is the dependency I am likely to suffer once I finally start a course of therapy. I utterly and with every fiber of my being despise being dependent on a goddamned shot every X days or weeks just to be a man. If I sound bitter, it's because I am. Harsh? Maybe. But I can't escape how I feel.

hayfarmer · 06-14-2007, 09:01 PM

All of us who have this can fully understand why you feel the way you do. But you have to learn to accept the things you can not change. Don't let this make you bitter. The mind and body work together and once you get some proper treatment it will be easier to have a better outlook. There are lots of worse things you could have. At least this is not a terminal illness.