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Old 08-04-2008, 03:33 PM   #1
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A number of issues, I am just so confused...

Hello everyone,

I am 16 and was confused with a number of things about my own body and generally the whole sex thing, im sorry I know that makes me sound unbeliavably stupid, a little background to me is that I grew up very slowly and only recently developed any social skills and the ability to deal with people and now life is even harder for me I used to not be able to handle people and could not join in with conversations and interact correctly and have a laugh, and in the past few weeks ive now become fully capable of dealing with people and now I have the opposite problem of finding a lot of people rather immature and silly eg the other day my friend said something along the lines of "oh its okay to have sex without a condom cos you can just get her to take the morning after pill the next day" everyone laughed and it was so weird I was just standing their thinking am I the only one who realises how unbeliavably stupid that is?? and now for the first time ever I actually feel capable of forming relationships and have been making a lot of new friends and here it gets even more weird because I can interact with adults better than I can with people my own age adult conversations on serious issues such as the economy, politics I enjoy teenage talk about football and school bores me half to death although football is fun to play and helps me keep fit its just so confusing I should be moving schools though and am hoping to make a frest start there and meet some new friends. Sorry I know that was probably a bit boring for everyone but I just thought it would help put across just how I am so confused about life and well everything, did anyone else ever feel like that? its so confusing.

My other issue is one relating to my own body unlike my idiotic ex friend I would never dream of having sex without a condom, but I am confused slightly about how to put a condom on fully. When I get an erection my foreskin does not pull back on its own I believe this is because it is to small and I am using the stretch techniques mentioned in this website to try to solve that problem, that however is not a major problem as I can easily pull the foreskin back with my hand to fully behing the glans, the problem is it only stays back for a few seconds and then rolls back over the glans, I am worried about what effect this would have on a condom during sex, when I go back to school I am going to get a girlfriend since ive grown up I actually seem to do quite well at impressing girls lol so I would like to get a commited relationship going and have sex as part of that (yes contrary to common belief about teenage boys there are some of us who do not believe in one night stands and think sex should only be part of commited relationships, this is the part where my mates think im really weird lol) but as I said my foreskin rolls back over my glans almost immediatly after I pull it back so im not sure what to do about this in regard to putting a condom on, im guessing that I should pull back the foreskin and roll the condom over the glans penis, but then should I just keep the condom down to the base of my penis and hope that is keeps the foreskin held down? but I read somewhere about the "gliding effect" where the foreskin glides over the glane penis during sex this happens during masturbation so im guessing it does happen during sex im throughuly stumped how im supposed to keep the condom on though with the foreskin gliding back and forth will this now force the condom off? or is there a way off putting the condom on to account for this?

Thankyou so so so much to anyone who can help with any part of this post I would be tremendously grateful being different socially to most of my friends and not understanding fully about condoms when most of my mates have had sex already makes me feel like such a complete looser the only thing that makes me feel better is that whenever I mention to my older friends about my teenage mates attitudes and how they annoy me being so stupid they all just reckon I am very mature, a lot of adults I get chatting to actually don't realise im only 16 one thought I was like 18-19 after wed just had a discussing on politics and to be entirely honest im not sure whether to take people thinking that as a compliment or not? its all just so humiliating. As I said anyone with advice or help it would be hugely appreciated!

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Old 08-05-2008, 05:03 AM   #2
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Re: A number of issues, I am just so confused...

Firstly I agree with the people who think that you are a little more mature in some areas that others your age. As you pointed out we all grow up differently and mature in areas of our lives at different rates. School can be a bore. Don't worry it ends soon and hopefully you get a job in a field that isn't. Being young is all about having great sex. You get to start finding out what you really like and what you don't in that regard. Your fiends well in my experience my friends were all hot air. I think I had more sex than they did for the most part. Doesn't matter though. I'm a little more than 20 years your senior and in my day i don't think most guys lost the virginity till they were about your age anyway. I didn't! Relax.
Your penis question. It doesn't sound like you need to do that stretching thing anyway. As you mentioned the foreskin is supposed to glide back and forth acting like a buffer during sexual activity. So long as it doesn't get stuck when you are masturbating you are fine. As far as the condom coming off. The inside of the condom is usually lubed at the end so as to accomodate foreskin issues. As you unroll it you will note that the inside is not lubed further down. This is so that it will grip the penis when rolled onto it through friction. Also now that they have sizes check that part out too. Normal sized condoms fit what they call normal online.

 
Old 08-05-2008, 05:23 AM   #3
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Re: A number of issues, I am just so confused...

Living still you are the best! thank you so so much for your time and advice I feel a lot better about everything after reading your post and its nice to finally have the condom question answered! thank you very very much sir!

 
Old 08-06-2008, 02:16 AM   #4
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Re: A number of issues, I am just so confused...

Glad you feel better. I am kinda practicing for when I have to start talking to my son about this stuff. He is still a little young yet but it won't be long I am sure. Anyways, the fact that you were asking kinda tells me you were stressing a bit about your first time when ever that happens. Trust me when you finally find the right girl at that right time (You will know. Straight up, you won't be able to help yourself.) You will need to stop yourself long enough to get the condom on. Oh one more thing don't stress if it is a really short session. I am not sure what everyone else's first time was like but I have to say that I wish all the sex I had in my life was that intense on my end. Shortest sex, most intense orgasm ever. If only I could have the duration with that orgasm. As long as it has been I remember every second and I am certain always will. Don't rush into into it. You want it to be the best memory you will always have. Enjoy.

 
Old 08-06-2008, 04:18 AM   #5
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Re: A number of issues, I am just so confused...

Thanks and good luck talking to your son about it when the time comes, from what I have seen of your posts I think he is lucky to have such a sensible and down to earth father, im pretty sure when I ask if girls can stay over my parents response is gonna be "no way in hell" lol so good luck to you as I said the kid is lucky his dad is quite so sensible over the whole thing

 
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