I am 16 and was confused with a number of things about my own body and generally the whole sex thing, im sorry I know that makes me sound unbeliavably stupid, a little background to me is that I grew up very slowly and only recently developed any social skills and the ability to deal with people and now life is even harder for me I used to not be able to handle people and could not join in with conversations and interact correctly and have a laugh, and in the past few weeks ive now become fully capable of dealing with people and now I have the opposite problem of finding a lot of people rather immature and silly eg the other day my friend said something along the lines of "oh its okay to have sex without a condom cos you can just get her to take the morning after pill the next day" everyone laughed and it was so weird I was just standing their thinking am I the only one who realises how unbeliavably stupid that is?? and now for the first time ever I actually feel capable of forming relationships and have been making a lot of new friends and here it gets even more weird because I can interact with adults better than I can with people my own age adult conversations on serious issues such as the economy, politics I enjoy teenage talk about football and school bores me half to death although football is fun to play and helps me keep fit
its just so confusing I should be moving schools though and am hoping to make a frest start there and meet some new friends. Sorry I know that was probably a bit boring for everyone but I just thought it would help put across just how I am so confused about life and well everything, did anyone else ever feel like that? its so confusing.
My other issue is one relating to my own body unlike my idiotic ex friend I would never dream of having sex without a condom, but I am confused slightly about how to put a condom on fully. When I get an erection my foreskin does not pull back on its own I believe this is because it is to small and I am using the stretch techniques mentioned in this website to try to solve that problem, that however is not a major problem as I can easily pull the foreskin back with my hand to fully behing the glans, the problem is it only stays back for a few seconds and then rolls back over the glans, I am worried about what effect this would have on a condom during sex, when I go back to school I am going to get a girlfriend since ive grown up I actually seem to do quite well at impressing girls lol so I would like to get a commited relationship going and have sex as part of that (yes contrary to common belief about teenage boys there are some of us who do not believe in one night stands and think sex should only be part of commited relationships, this is the part where my mates think im really weird lol) but as I said my foreskin rolls back over my glans almost immediatly after I pull it back so im not sure what to do about this in regard to putting a condom on, im guessing that I should pull back the foreskin and roll the condom over the glans penis, but then should I just keep the condom down to the base of my penis and hope that is keeps the foreskin held down? but I read somewhere about the "gliding effect" where the foreskin glides over the glane penis during sex this happens during masturbation so im guessing it does happen during sex im throughuly stumped how im supposed to keep the condom on though with the foreskin gliding back and forth will this now force the condom off? or is there a way off putting the condom on to account for this?
Thankyou so so so much to anyone who can help with any part of this post I would be tremendously grateful being different socially to most of my friends and not understanding fully about condoms when most of my mates have had sex already makes me feel like such a complete looser the only thing that makes me feel better is that whenever I mention to my older friends about my teenage mates attitudes and how they annoy me being so stupid they all just reckon I am very mature, a lot of adults I get chatting to actually don't realise im only 16 one thought I was like 18-19 after wed just had a discussing on politics and to be entirely honest im not sure whether to take people thinking that as a compliment or not? its all just so humiliating. As I said anyone with advice or help it would be hugely appreciated!