I just had the bad experience of tearing my frenulum this past weekend while having sex with my wife. We made the mistake of not using any lubricant and, although I felt a sharp pain, I continued for another five minutes before pulling out to see blood pouring out of me. After about five minutes I was able to slow the blood loss but every time I urinated after it would start to bleed slightly again and now, two days later, I still have some spotting. My biggest concern is that my foreskin did not come back up the day it happened and now it's swollen and it won't come up. It's not painful but it is uncomfortable since my head is exposed. Has anyone had this issue? I am using polysporin on the cut but I would like some avise on what I can do to have my foreskin return to normal.
While technically this is paraphimosis, unless your head is turning black, you are not in any danger. Since you posted here instead of going to emergency, this is just a stuck, slightly swollen foreskin, not so bad that the circulation is not getting to and from the head.
You're right, having the foreskin back all the time is very disconcerting, and uncomfortable.
Put crushed ice in a plastic bag, wrap it with a towel, and put it on your penis, for no more than 15 minues. Squeeze as much of the blood out of the head with your fingers.
Apply a lubricant, such as baby oil, vegetable oil, astroglide, whatever. Pull the foreskin away from your body, and away from the head of the penis. This should work.
Now for the difficult part. The frenulum, while blessed by being the most sexually responsive part of a man, is also one of the weakest structures of the human body.
Once it tears, in my experience and the experience of many others on the net, it refuses to heal without complete rest. Masturbation or sex will just cause it to tear again, until it is fully healed. I learned this the hard way, and it took me about 3 months, mostly because I was unwilling to leave it alone for long enough to heal.
The good news is that scar tissue heals stronger. Once I let it heal, it never tore again, in the 35+ years since.
All this being said, the exquisite sensations they give make a frenulum and a foreskin well worth having. Good luck in your healing.
Thanks for the advice. I did pull the foreskin forward the day after my post and I let the frenulum heal for just over 4 weeks. Unfortunately, my frenulum tore again the first time I tried to have sex which was about a week ago.
I went to a urologist and he has booked me for some minor surgery where he will cut the remainder of the frenulum. He says that this should fix the problem entirely. Is anyone familiar with this procedure? I'm concerned that having no frenulum may cause other issues. I have already noticed that my penis seems to get smaller when not erect, like it can "retreat further" now that there is no frenulum. I am also a little nervous about the healing time and how uncomfortable I will be with stitches on the inside of my foreskin.
I would appreciate any feedback or opinions on this surgery.
If he is thinking of removing the frenulum, find another doctor, and tell the first one why.
This can be fixed with a stitch, not by removing the most responsive part on a male body.
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