as long as i have known him, my husband has phimosis. he can pull back his foreskin when he's flaccid, but when he's erect, it won't go down more than a centimeter maybe. he didn't even know this was a problem, as oddly enough no other woman brought it up. as a result his penis develops a bad smell, even though he washes it in the bathtub daily. also, his sexual sensation is hindered, even though he disagrees with me, because i don't see how he can experience the full sexual sensation if his head is covered during sex or oral sex.
he went to the doctor, and the doctor gave him betamethasone steroid cream and told him to stretch the foreskin. he did it once a day for one week and then stopped. it helped the foreskin slide down evne more when flaccid, but made no difference when erect. he asked the doctor for a urologist referral, and the doctor refused, claiming "you're not getting circumcised." (he has an HMO, so i thikn they are just trying to keep their costs down.) i told him to call back again, and he did, and the doctor is supposed to call h im back, but i doubt he will get the referral still.
i have read the stretching post on here...but is it possible it may not work for some men? or did we not do it for long enough? we only stretched for a week using the techniques posted here. do you think this is a case that can be fixed at home with stretching since he only has the issue when erect, or does he need surgery? he doesnt go online, so thats why im posting for him. any help would be appreciated. this is new to me, as all my boyfriends before him were circumcised.
What a wonderful partner you are! Your post is filled with kindness, consideration, thoughtfulness, intelligent perception, attention to detail and love for your guy. I hope he realises this.
Now that I've had my rave, let me continue.
I speak from personal experience. I was discouraged from pulling back my foreskin as a child and it wasn't until I was a teenager that I did so. My foreskin was tight and I didn't pull it back when I had an erection for that reason. In fact, it wasn't until I started having sex that I realised it is essential for the penis head to be exposed for maximum satisfaction during sex. Gradually, with masturbation and sex, I was able to achieve that goal. You are so right: the intense feeling in the frenulum when the foreskin is fully retracted during oral and vaginal sex is something no guy should miss out on.
I have always considered that a guy who can retract his foreskin while flaccid does not have phimosis and I am sure that your partner does not need surgery. The doctor is right: he should not be circumcised. It really is just a matter of persisting with stretching the foreskin: any guy who can retract when flaccid will eventually be able to retract when erect. The exercises you refer to will help. Persistence, patience and daily practice will do it over a period of time. I can't tell you how long it will take because every foreskin is different but one week is definitely not long enough to see any improvement.
At the very least, your partner's penis should not smell. He can pull his foreskin back and wash that whole area every time he showers. What does the doctor say about the smell?
Please feel free to ask any questions you want.
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Fles is right. Retract the foreskin when flacid and in the shower and clean it. One week is not long enough. But having said that stretching does not work for everyone.
It didn't work for me but tore instead and healed with fibrous tissue. To retain his foreskin, if all else fails, ask the urologist to remove only the phimotic ring. Eventually it will stretch to entirely cover the glans. That was my experience. Good luck.