Scared to be alone - Anyone else? - Mental Health Message Board

Stcy · 06-13-2004, 12:43 PM

I just had a question I thought I would ask all you depression/anxiety people out there. I too suffer with this "illness" and just about 2 months ago I had a break down. Ever since it has been hard to be alone. I rely heavily on my mom .. I feel safe with her. After 2 months of this she is really starting to get stressed out (which I understand). She said I should not be like this and that NO ONE else is like this. I am getting better and soon I know I wont be so dependent on her ... but for now .. my question for you all is .... Have you ever had this experience ... where you feel you have to have someone there at all times (like a safety net). She may be right, it may just be ME .... BUT I have a feeling its not. I know its because of my anxiety and I am just wondering if anyone else is going through this or ever has before. Thanks for taking the time to read this - I appreciate it - I told my mom I would write this on here and then I am going to get back to her with the replies!

pstrait · 06-14-2004, 07:52 AM

Stacy,yes I Was That Way I Had A Pyscotic Breakdown About Two And A Half Years Agao And It Took A While To Be Able To Get Over Of Not Wanting To Be Alone But Now After My Meds Were Regulated And All I Am Now Not Afraid To Be Alone ,i Live With My Parents Since I Had My Breakdown As I Did Not Want To Live On My Own Needless To Say I Think I Am Ready To Be On My Own Again ,any Way My Parents Left For The Summer About A Month And A Half Ago And I Am Doing Wonderful On My Own Before If They Wanted To Do That I Was Afraid And Had To Have A Family Member To Stay With Me.so Yes I Do Believe With Time You Will Be Able To Get Over This Fear To ,take Care And Hope Things Work Out For You .peggy

hry33 · 06-16-2004, 05:06 AM

to stcy
do you have a panic attack if left alone? if so this isnt unusual, tell us more

zimnah · 06-16-2004, 01:19 PM

stcy: this is textbook normal. I realise it may be very stressful for your mum, but the alternative probably feelis like it will kill you! It won't, you know, but that does nothing to curb the feeling that it just might. You are so scared and alone, and the one person who is supposed to be there is for now. Try venturing out to more scary places with her, and try taking a few steps away from her while there. She will feel more empowered in being able to help you wean from this dependence, as opposed to feeling the object of your dependence. Try maybe a movie, as sit a couple of seats away. That way, you can see her, but you also have your own space. Others amy have hurt you, but alone, you are strongest, thought you do not yet know it. Keep posting, and let us know.
Hang in there!!