Thinking about someone elses death? eek.. - Mental Health Message Board

SammyT · 01-02-2005, 08:48 AM

yeh, this happens the odd times. i always think about someone else i love dying. and i make myself cry and cry..this happens the odd times, like 2wice a month or so..but its kinda weird cuz i do not want the person i love to pass away...its scary! can i be overcoming a mental issue?

Ruth6:11 · 01-02-2005, 09:19 AM

Is this a parent dying that you think about?
I used to force myself to think about my Mom or Dad dying. I was afraid that if I waited to deal with such an emotional issue until it really happened I would totally fall apart and fall into a deep dark depression, lose a job, ruin my relationship etc.
So I thought that by trying to deal with it ahead of time it might kind of "take the edge off it" enough to where I could cope at least a little.

I don't know enough about you to tell you if you have any mental health issues... Are there other things that you "overthink" about? How are your grades if you're in school? Do you have one good friend at least?

And are there any other things going on with the person you imagine dying? Or their marriage?

Try writing a letter to this person and telling them how you feel about them - your fears and everything. Put it under your mattress and when you find yourself thinking too much about it when you should be able to sleep, take it out and read it again...

Is everything else ok in your world??

*music23* · 01-02-2005, 01:06 PM

I do the same thing. Sometimes I think about my little sister dying and I get so into it, as if it's actually happening. What's even MORE often is me thinking of myself dying. I know how that goes. I'm sorry I don't really have any magical answers for you... my thoughts of these things come and go. I have bipolar; that's probably why.
Good luck,
Kristina

kerry1 · 01-02-2005, 05:30 PM

I think about stuff like that too. I've got a depressive disorder - I chalk it up to that, then try to stop thinking about it.

Mecpcpj · 01-02-2005, 08:04 PM

I think we're all afraid of death and being alone. I worry more about the people around me dying than myself. I'm not afraid of dying at all. But, it's just so frightening to think that we'll lose the ones around us and have no one to turn to.

Your issue might be more complex if you have other things going on too, like the first poster said.