Daughter's emotional and mental well being - Mental Health Message Board

iridium_pegasus · 01-22-2005, 09:38 PM

I am not really sure where to post this. Almost 3 weeks ago my STBXW(soon to be ex wife) said she wanted to move out. Said she needed some time away, to think things over. I said ok. She then moved herself and the 2 daughters to another town, 20 miles away where she worked and put them in school there. 1 week after she started staying at her new place, she promptly moved in her new BF. A man she had met on the internet months ago and hadn't met in person until the day before she moved him in with them. My daughters are 6 and 8. They were already having problems with the idea of seperation, let alone divorce. So in the space of about 2 weeks, they loast there home, school, family, and have a strange man living with them. What is likely to be the effect on there mental and emotional well being? I really need help so I can decide what I should do. I DO NOT want to cause any more harm to their psyches than already has been done

Rani* · 01-22-2005, 10:37 PM

Have you considered talking to a social worker and a lawyer?

iridium_pegasus · 01-22-2005, 10:46 PM

I have not talked to a social work, but have talked to two therapists. I have also talked to a lawyer. Both therapist say that this is not a good thing for them, but I am unsure how to proceed. I DON'T want to start a big fight, but she INSISTS this is for the BEST interest of the girls

Rani* · 01-22-2005, 11:04 PM

I agree it's not a good environment for your daughters. Sometimes things have
to get worse before they get better, talk to your daughters and listen to your heart.

iridium_pegasus · 01-23-2005, 10:35 AM

Last night while trying to get them into bed, the oldest was acting up. Finally I just asked her why she was doing that. Then the fireworks really started. She started crying and said she wanted to stay here all the time. That mom had the BF, and how she didn't like BF there, that it was wrong, but she couldnt tell here mom or take it out on her because then the BF might leave and not love her any more, and then if BF left mom wouldn't love her anymore. She said some stuff about how mom told them they had to treat the BF with respect, but she feels her mother isn't trating her that way. She said she does not wont the BF there. What to do?