I Lie way to much!! help - Mental Health Message Board

ManInNeed · 01-30-2005, 10:44 PM

Hi I'm 18 and i have a lieing proplem. Like i lie to ever body when i 1st meet them to make ppl more eazy around me. But now it seem i am thinking of lies for no reson at all. i'm scaird that someones ganna find out how many i have told and ever one well hate me..... Not becose if who i am. i really dont even know.. i told so many lies i can't tell truth from a lie anymore. but i lie to ppl a lease 10 - 30 time dayly cant b e to sure dont really tryed counting. please is there a was to train myself to not lie?...

Time2Heal · 01-30-2005, 10:58 PM

I have known many people that also have a problem with lies. It seems to me it becomes a habit. Also, with you accepting the fact that you do have this problem means you are no longer in denial. That is a HUGE step forward. You are reaching for help and never give up or stop. I say, take it day by day. Think before you speak, and try your very hardest to speak the truth. If you find that you are lying about things to make you more acceptable to friends or whomever, then you need to realize that you need not change or make up who you are. Be honest and if they don't accept you then they are not worth it! I wish you luck and I think you are on your way up the ladder to find peace.
Caytie

teko2000 · 01-31-2005, 10:17 PM

Hi,
18 is a hard age. You probably feel like you have to empress people and you cant do it just by being yourself. Then you lie and you end up believing the lies because you tell so many you think its true. Dont worry, your not alone, you relaize whats going on. So try and just be yourself. When people bring up the lies from the past, because they think its the truth, just brush it off and say oh man thats the past I dont even want to talk about it. That way your stopping the lies from going on. You have total controll over your life. Dont let the Lies take control of you. Honesty will get your further with people and youll learn more about yourself. And dont you know, even if you think your a good lier most people can see threw the lies.

Life is too short to be stressed over what to remember with the lies. Just be yourself. See you are a good person because you know you shouldnt be doing all the lieing. So just give yourself a break, move on and stop the lying.
Peace,
Teko