| Re: How do I deal with a Narcissist
I know of a narcissist, he is a friend of a friend. I get hear the horror stories. He's in college and most women find him attractive -- he is relentlessly compared to looking like Colin Farrell (sp?) and Orlando Bloom by the gals who fawn over him. He had always been narcissistic, but it hit an all time high after he and his girlfriend split up. He recently started working out and pretends to see results. And he does it loudly, so whoever is in his house can hear and acknowledge the fact that he's doing so. He says things like, "I wonder if the people who hang out with me like me for my personality or do they just like hanging around pretty people..." He is also a liar. He pretends to be the hottest bachelor in the entire city, fighting girls off then sweep them off their feet when they return for more. He thinks everybody else is a peasant and the beauty that he possesses makes him better than everybody else.
I don't know what to do with him. I was talking to his roommate and we've collectively concluded that this is his way of keeping himself happy. That he's really a lonely chump, who steps on the people that allow themselves to be stepped on. And that he lies about his various escapades with the opposite sex to impress his roommate, who has only seen him with two girls ever. He points out other's flaws to take the attention off of his own. He is really an ugly person. I can't stand him.
I suggested that the roommate question his stories and maybe even disagree with his "I am so freaking beautiful" statements. As angry as that will probably make him, somebody will at least be adverse to his ********** and maybe his ego will shrink a little bit. Other people would quickly say, "Cut them out of your life."
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