Contest between sisters, who hurts more
The title tells the tale. I have a younger sister, 44 who HAS to one up me on everything. Now this has spread into our health. I try not to say anything to my extended family about my health trials, but somehow my sister manages to bring up all her woes (worse than anyone else has ever suffered). Her husband then tells us all the gory details--her pain, her lack of help, her medications which are so much more dangerous than any of the rest of us could ever take...etc. It is maddening and it makes me not want to go to any family get togethers.
I am not in competition for who feels the worst. Or who takes the more dangerous drugs etc. She used to say she had Fibromyalgia, but now she has a "wonder doctor", who says FM isn't real, now she has RA. I believe she does have RA, but now all she can say is "FM is not a real thing." To me. Since she KNOWS I have been Dxed with FM.
My mother is in collusion with her and only adds to the tension I feel. I will go home if my sister won't be there, but otherwise I don't try. What is it that members of your own family feel they must be the #1 suffering member? I would like to be the #1 NON-suffering member!
Lupus, MCTD, Vasculitis, RA, Radiculopathy, T10 &12, L4&5, S1> DDD & Facet Arthritis, OA, HTN, Fibromyalgia, and Hashimotos