"Big Eyes" - Mental Health Message Board

davidjoshua · 05-05-2006, 06:44 PM

My really close friend used to see a therapist and was told she had "big eyes". She sees and notices everything. I feel the same, and I think that's why we connect on the level we do.

It's not like paranoia or making up things in my head, it just I see and notice a lot more in any given situation than anybody I know. Not only what's on the outside, but I can see emotions, I can see when somebody lies. I don't think I've ever been wrong. I think it makes it very easy for me to relate to others because I can often see things from their perspective (I kind of feel like I see things in an ultimate perspective). I can analyze a situation, everybody in it, understand what everyone wants. I can see their insecurities, etc.

However, it's not as good as it sounds. Oftentimes I feel like I'm 'above' others, or I get an impression that's how people think of me, and its not something I can really control. I'm just very psychologically and socially obervant. I drink alcohol a lot to cope with this (smoking pot gives me the opposite effect, oftentimes when I'm high it feels like its just too much to handle).

I'm just curious if anyone knows any more about this? What's up with my mind? I'm just trying to find out more about whatever it is in my brain that makes me this way, and maybe if there are other people like me. I've only known one person in my life thats the same way.

hry33 · 05-09-2006, 04:26 PM

you would be better off just thinking of yourself as average and not especially gifted

m25 · 05-10-2006, 06:18 AM

My opinion is that what you describe is a form of genius, and I think that would explain why you've only met one other person who is the same.

margaret_doody · 05-10-2006, 06:34 AM

I'm confused as to why this is a problem? People like Derren Browne have made careers out of this! My partner has a similar ability but it's never been a problem, quite the opposite, it makes him very good at the job he does - he works for the Police! I wouldn't try to analyse it at all, people have different talents and some are more perceptive, astute, than others - you don't have a problem you have a gift - put it to use!

m25 · 05-10-2006, 08:43 AM

No offense but that is like saying to someone whose hearing is overly sensitive that they don't have a problem but a gift. Imagine that you can't go anywhere without earplugs, and all people say is you should put this 'gift' to good use. We use dogs because they have senses we don't have. He does not owe it to society to be a policeman or whatever because he is intuitive. If he is drinking in order to cope then there is a problem.