Regaining self-respect - Mental Health Message Board

moonstruckgrl · 05-19-2006, 07:50 PM

Hi!
I've recently realised I'm once again in a relationship where I have lost my self-respect and I'm practically begging to be loved. The guy I'm with unfortunatelly seems to either take advantage of it or feels jaded, because the longer and the more I ask, the less I get.
I'm asking, how do I recover my self confidence, my identity and self-respect?
This has happened to me way too many times and it seems to be a pattern destroying my relationships and myself....

tamara29 · 05-19-2006, 09:47 PM

Hi, I really shouldn't be giving advice, because before I met DH, I was the exact same way. But, I did realize after a while that what I needed was a break from men. I needed to find myself and to regain my self-confidence and love for myself before I could find someone to love me the way I wanted to be loved. How I got all of that back, I don't really know. But, a definate break from men and relationships helped a lot.

trg247 · 05-19-2006, 10:22 PM

take back your life. Evaluate the stuff in your life and get rid of anything that is not positive.

take care
trg247

babiblujay · 05-20-2006, 04:00 PM

I keep going to my bf... for hugs, kisses.. and other stuff, but he's always too tired.. always just gives me little pecks.. hates french kissing etc. I feel totally undesirable...im completely insecure. I believe im good looking, but he just bashes me by not being interested...

strongernow · 05-20-2006, 06:24 PM

Hey not all men are the same but there are a lot of men who will seem the same or act the same. You want to know your man or woman by asking tons of questions and being investigative. It is not all about making out and making small talk.