someone PLEASE help me! - Mental Health Message Board

bettyst · 05-29-2006, 10:33 AM

I am a mother of a 30 year old daughter. She has always been one that angers easy. She has two children. One son age 11. She is divorce from his father...problem marriage...married to young(pregnant). Second child DD 3 did not marry the father. She has never been able to be in a relationship for long...just can't seem to find Mr Right and she can't get along with anyone. Even in school she had problems with doing what was asked. NEVER all s's on conduct and such!! I even get along with her for most of the time. Whatever I say is wrong. She is now married to a guy that has custody of his two teen boys(15 and 13) She has been married since March but has been with him for about 2 years. There has been nothing but problems!! He leaves and stays gone all night when there is some problems...which is often. BOTH from what I can tell have problems!! One week things are fine and next thing awful!! I worry most about my DGC...what kind of home life they have!!
She knows she needs help and he does too (IMHO). I am so lost...what to do!!
I have an adult child at home that is mentally disable. I have no room for 3 more people. I would do what I have to do for my grandchildren....but I am lost on how to help my DD.
Another thing...she can't keep a job for long...she and her DH opened a consignment store(he works someplace else) She runs the consignment store. She has no ins.
What is wrong with her...how do I help her????

BetsyJean · 05-29-2006, 12:35 PM

She may have a mood disorder, or she may have a personality disorder.
To be honest, since she is 30 the only thing you can do is urge her to get her own help.
Wait for a time that she raises the subject of how her life has been going - or until she seems relatively stable for a time before you talk to her.
And even that may not work.
There isn't alot you can do to get help for someone who isn't looking for it....