Re: anyone ever been in love and lost?
it sounds like hes suffering from very low self esteem,and needs some sort of help, and i agree with the last poster about being there as his friend. if you love him as much as you say you do you will want to keep him in your life.
Ive never been in the exact situation you're in but ive certainly found out in life that people always want what they cant have, im still madly in love with someone that i know i will never be with as he doesnt feel the same way and never has done. i havent even seen or spoken to him in over a year but i'll never forget him, and the fact that i know i'll never be with him and he doesnt want me has made my feelings even more intense. but i can honestly say that if he knocked at my door now saying he'd loved me the whole time id be terrified of things going wrong between us because of how strong my feelings are, it'd be like holding the most precious thing in the world and being terrified of breaking it. Maybe this is how the guy feels. He obviously certainly cares enough about you not to want to hurt you in any way, but id say any problems are with him rather than you.
Support him and give him time and space to work through these problems. One thing i definitely believe in is fate, and if you're meant to be together, you will be